Be Aware of Transference
Posted on July 29, 2021 Leave a Comment
After posting the image you see, I realized I added a question to the statement. But when I looked at the statement, I realized how necessary the question mark is, especially with recent events. How we treat others says more about our state of being than it does about the other person. For example, can we truly say people make us angry? Or, are we responding to pent-up emotions that want our attention?
When we curse, hit, kick, refuse to help, scream, yell, and others, we project our emotions and feelings on others. Instead of going outward, we serve ourselves better by going inward. Transference is like a bandaid that keeps falling off, revealing our unhealed wounds.
Throughout my earthly journey, I’ve allowed my emotions and feelings to get the best of me. But, the more I read the Bible, the more I see we have the answers to overcoming life experiences and what can happen if we choose not to align ourselves to Truth.
For example, Scripture informs us, “the one who knows uses words with restraint and whoever has understanding is even-tempered” (Proverbs 17:22).
As we have seen, unassessed and unmanaged emotions (anger, envy, guilt) can lead to destructive actions, feeding the world’s cycle of pain and darkness. “Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret”Š”””Š-it leads only to evil” (Psalm 37:16).
As we have also heard and seen, chronic stress (emotional, mental, physical, social, and spiritual) leads to chronic health conditions and sometimes death. But, “a heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones” (Proverbs 14:30). In addition, chronic stress impairs the body’s ability to fight off bacterial and viral invaders.
Your best health is probably a thought away from addressing unhealed wounds. You don’t have to suffer from unhealed wounds. The way to becoming more conscious of actions is by taking time to become more aware of your actions. The busier we are, the more our emotions and feelings pile up in us. Take time now to assess your daily actions by sitting quietly and ask are your actions are in alignment with someone who is happy and wants joy, peace, and experience Love.
Make this moment and this lifetime great!
Timika
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Every Storm Teaches. Are you Listening?
Posted on July 28, 2021 2 Comments
Whenever there was a storm, my mother instructed us to sit in one room until the storm was over quietly. And, whatever we were doing (eating, fixing a meal, watching television) had to wait until “God was done with His work.” But, what I didn’t know at the time is how this training spilled over in helping all of us handle adversities.
Secretly, I believe we all enjoyed the break from routine. The quiet time gave us all time to reassess our lives. Before resuming our planned activities after the storm, my two brothers, our mother, and I would sit around and tell family bloopers or reveal some new understanding about life issues. Later I realized that although a storm can bring about chaos, it is possible to achieve calmness during a storm. Also, we make the most out of storms by achieving stillness and going within ourselves to bring about revelations, including a new way of handling future storms.
I learned a long time ago that teachers aren’t always fit the stereotype ( older, bald head, fancy robe, mustache or clean face, etc.). Not all teachers are human. Sometimes our teachers bring chaos, but it is up to us to take advantage of the still moments. The two family members who misused my developing body were my teachers. With their help, I learned some things about myself, including learning to trust myself and the Voice within.
Even the absence of something can teach you something. An absent father, another storm, taught me to address my emotions and feelings instead of relying on external comforters.
Whatever you are experiencing didn’t come overnight. However, storms can be an opportunity to put our life in order. Some of the questions you can ask yourself include:
- What’s keeping me from experiencing a peace that surpasses understanding?
- What storms are you experiencing, including coronavirus, and how are you handling them?
- How am I showing love to the ones I profess I love?
- How am I not showing Love to the ones I profess I love?
- What emotions and feelings haven’t I dealt with?
- How can I efficiently maximize my energy, experiences, money, and time? Are you doing what you love to do? Do you feel limited at work?
Make this lifetime great!
Timika
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You Are Not Alone
Posted on July 27, 2021 Leave a Comment
Sometimes we may feel we are alone, but we are not. Often, we may believe our prayers aren’t answered, but our Creator is listening. We may not understand what’s going on in the world, but there is a plan. Keep believing. Keep praying. Keep living. Remember that faith is “the confidence of what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see” (NIV, Hebrews 11:1).
May comfort, love, and peace surround you and yours.
Timika
