What woke you up this morning? Was it your job? Was it the drive to live your best life?
Your life is your life. When you are older, you will ask the question, why didn’t I do this or that? You will live with your successes and regrets, not your parents, your neighbor, your wife, your husband, your best friend, or anyone else.
It is up to us to make this life count. We must first start with ourselves. Be the person that fits you. Be in the best health possible. If you have been diagnosed with a health condition, such as Diabetes, Prediabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, then manage it. You always have choices. Choose wisely-now more than ever. It is not too late.
Timika S Chambers
If we have not made a desired goal a priority, how do we expect to achieve that goal in a desired time? We will always be able to think of reasons not to start, continue, or finish a project. We all have “life issues.” And, we all have 24 hours in a day.
I am not trying to undervalue what someone is going through. In fact as a coach, mentor, and a human being, I aim to understand what someone is going through and offer strategies to help them overcome perceived barriers.
Life is definitely a balancing act and a chance to tap into your unlimited creativity.
When one feels like he needs to force another person to do something, it is more about the person who is forcing or threatening the other person to do something than about the person you are trying to force. If someone really wants to do something, he or she will. For example, I as a Certified Diabetes Educator, I don’t force someone who has been diagnosed with diabetes to check his or her blood sugar. If after all of the assessment and proper education is done, and that person chooses to not check his or her blood sugar and suffer the possible consequences, I respect his or her decision.
In my personal and professional life, I have found to always do my part and then let go. My mother taught me that when you have done your part , let go. Believe it or not, I have seen others accomplish their goals and incorporate positive behaviors in their life after that person no longer feels forced to do so. People want to be respected and not just told to do something.
Forcing someone to do something he or she doesn’t want to do obviously means that person doesn’t want to do whatever it is you are asking him or her to do. Maybe instead of forcing, assess the situation, if it is not blatantly obvious why the person does not want to do something, then ask yourself ” am I being reasonable to ask such a thing” and if so, then ask the person why or she doesn’t want to do what’s being asked. Maybe that person is afraid or doesn’t know how.
Is it because of ego that we are trying to force someone to do something? More than likely…yes.
I do believe people have free will to live their life and are capable of doing so as long as they are able to ( mentally, physically, etc). If someone has issues with low self esteem, self -efficacy or confidence in his or her abilities, then that person may need time for personal development/ growth
If you feel you have to force someone to do some unreasonable or even reasonable action, know it’s time to back off and check yourself.
Throughout my nursing career, I have seen how the lack of accurate and timely education, including knowledge about resources, played a role in Emergency Room visits, hospitalizations and increased hospital stay, and increase in out-of-pocket expenses. Unfortunately, sometimes education departments are the first to go when there are budget cuts, and time constraints and other factors may interfere with quality education. It is important to be familiar with resources within your community and ask the right questions to maintain optimal health. Enjoy your life!
Given your current health condition or circumstance, what resources do you have in your community to support your decision to live a healthier life and to enjoy life to the fullest (smoking cessation group/hotline, domestic violence shelters, food shelters, diabetic support group/Certified Diabetes Educator)? Try your local Department of Health for community programs. Try eatright.org to locate a Registered Dietician in your area if you need assistance with weight loss/meal planning and to help to prevent conditions such as pre-diabetes or diabetes.
Check out Participating Prescription Assistance Programs for local support for medications and local free clinics in your area. Click on the link below this statement or copy and paste the link in your browser.
Did you know that you have the right to receive a copy of your labs? I will never forget when my doctor told me that my cholesterol was fine. After reviewing my labs, I found my cholesterol to be 199 (200 is considered high). I started making changes in my diet even though my doctor did not think it was necessary. She knew I was a nurse.
You do not have to go to your doctor’s appointments by yourself. Take a loved one with you or a relative who is familiar with your condition so that someone can take notes for you or be an extra set of ears. Sometimes the information your doctor tells you can be overwhelming.
Make a list of your concerns to your doctor. Write down your concerns, signs and symptoms you have been having, and any other issues. Your information could be key to diagnosing you early and receiving accurate and timely treatment. Hand your list of concerns to your doctor and have your doctor answer each concern and cross them off as you go. You or your doctor can write the answers down next to each question so that you can refer to your list of questions and answers later.
Did you know that many brand name medications have a low-cost generic equivalent ($4, $5, or less)? Check with Walgreens, Walmart, or any local store to see if the pharmacy carries a low-cost generic version of the medicine your doctor prescribed to you. Better yet, you can go to your pharmacy’s website, print the generic list, and take the list to your doctor. I have included the links to Walgreens and Walmart generic drug list below. Please click on the link or copy and paste the link into browser. Any money saved is money saved.
Subdued negative emotions and feelings have been shown to have a positive effect on our health. Negative emotions/feelings not dealt with will leak out in your thoughts and actions at some point in your life, whether minutes, hours, days, weeks, and/or years later. When we do not address the root cause of our anger, jealousy, fear, bitterness, frustration, they can grow like weeds in our mind and body and spill off into our actions, whether consciously or unconsciously. Our inability to self reflect, release, and control our emotions can lead to violence such as bullying, domestic abuse, neglect, or even not taking care of ourselves the way we should. .
I see negative emotions/feelings as negative energy that may cause our body to go haywire by interfering with the chemicals that are supposed to help our body stay in balance and by causing our body to produce toxins. These toxins may then cause our blood sugars to rise or go to low, our blood pressure to go high, heart rate to skyrocket (tachycardia) or to drop (bradycardia), increase kidney stones and poor circulation because our heart and vessels are stressed beyond the body’s way to maintain balance on its own.. There is a common factor, among the many different factors that cause illnesses and diseases. I believe stress is a common factor in rare conditions and common health conditions (i.e. diabetes, heart disease, fibromyalgia, and different blood disorders), and it is not so much stress as it is ineffective coping or not properly dealing with stress. In essence, it is easy to see why not forgiving yourself and others, and holding on to negative emotions and feelings are forms of self sabotage. We are doing harm to ourselves than we think or led to believe.
Whatever is your story, you always have a choice to be a victim or use your story to positively transform your life and the life of others. Many have taken the path of healing and being a light in someone’s darkness.
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