Many tasks may seem overwhelming at times. I find myself:
- Sitting down and making a list and/or visualizing what I need to do—How I am going to carry out the action? What are the best possible steps? What are my resources and how will I use them?
2. Breaking the task into small parts. This step lessons my anxiety about the task at hand.
3. Making time on my calendar throughout the week for completing small parts of the project. I have been getting up 1.5 hours earlier than my children for some quality me time and work on projects. When students tell me that they do not have time, I ask are you willing to make time. The answer is usually, yes. I will then encourage students to stay up 1 hour later or get up one 1 earlier to complete parts of their task, and usually, they can.
4. Evaluating progress as I go. I keep a to-do list tablet for daily to-dos. If I mark off things as I complete them, my confidence builds, and I can see the progress that I have made.
The more prepared I am, the less the task seems like a giant.
Throughout my nursing career, I have seen how the lack of accurate and timely education, including knowledge about resources, played a role in Emergency Room visits, hospitalizations and increased hospital stay, and increase in out-of-pocket expenses. Unfortunately, sometimes education departments are the first to go when there are budget cuts, and time constraints and other factors may interfere with quality education. It is important to be familiar with resources within your community and ask the right questions to maintain optimal health. Enjoy your life!
- Given your current health condition or circumstance, what resources do you have in your community to support your decision to live a healthier life and to enjoy life to the fullest (smoking cessation group/hotline, domestic violence shelters, food shelters, diabetic support group/Certified Diabetes Educator)? Try your local Department of Health for community programs. Try eatright.org to locate a Registered Dietician in your area if you need assistance with weight loss/meal planning and to help to prevent conditions such as pre-diabetes or diabetes.
Check out Participating Prescription Assistance Programs for local support for medications and local free clinics in your area. Click on the link below this statement or copy and paste the link in your browser.
- Did you know that you have the right to receive a copy of your labs? I will never forget when my doctor told me that my cholesterol was fine. After reviewing my labs, I found my cholesterol to be 199 (200 is considered high). I started making changes in my diet even though my doctor did not think it was necessary. She knew I was a nurse.
- You do not have to go to your doctor’s appointments by yourself. Take a loved one with you or a relative who is familiar with your condition so that someone can take notes for you or be an extra set of ears. Sometimes the information your doctor tells you can be overwhelming.
- Make a list of your concerns to your doctor. Write down your concerns, signs and symptoms you have been having, and any other issues. Your information could be key to diagnosing you early and receiving accurate and timely treatment. Hand your list of concerns to your doctor and have your doctor answer each concern and cross them off as you go. You or your doctor can write the answers down next to each question so that you can refer to your list of questions and answers later.
- Did you know that many brand name medications have a low-cost generic equivalent ($4, $5, or less)? Check with Walgreens, Walmart, or any local store to see if the pharmacy carries a low-cost generic version of the medicine your doctor prescribed to you. Better yet, you can go to your pharmacy’s website, print the generic list, and take the list to your doctor. I have included the links to Walgreens and Walmart generic drug list below. Please click on the link or copy and paste the link into browser. Any money saved is money saved.
Live life to the fullest and know your resources.
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Albert Einstein
Intellectually, I knew my life needed a change years ago, and it has been a journey! I used to think that once someone became a mother, “that’s it! Your life is over. You don’t have time for anything else.” I am the one who planted those beliefs and have had to dig them up by the roots and throw them away….
I would hear so many mothers talk about how they did not have time for themselves, and honestly, it should not and does not have to be that way. I know some single mothers who managed to earn a college degree or further their career and still raise their children. I know because I was raised by a single mother. Who says that a mother cannot continue to develop her gifts and talents and enjoy doing things for herself and taking time out to replenish her soul?
Two great quotes by Henry Ford will empower you if you let them:
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”
― Henry Ford
“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.”
― Henry Ford
In the past, I tried different techniques to help keep me accountable. I tried printing out and posting a schedule I made out using Cozi Family Organizer http://www.cozi.com/. I know the schedule by heart because I have also written it down multiple times, as well. It’s great to use reminders. I realized, though, that my beliefs needed to be dealt with and challenged.
I can honestly say that a recent vacation helped me to clear my head and truly think about things that are truly important to me. I love my family, and I love myself, too. I concluded that:
1. I am the one in charge of my life….my mother would always tell me that and even today, she finds a way to squeeze the reminder in our conversations.
2. Everything does not have to be done today. I need to prioritize and plan for tomorrow…hopefully, I will see another day.
3. My health-physical, mental, emotion, and spiritual, is important as is everyone else.
4. I need to be organized-I function better and able to make the most use of my time. If tasks have a day and time to be completed, then I tend to use my time more efficiently, and many times within the past week, I realize how much free time I have when I am organized.
5. It is better for me to focus on one task at a time until its completion. It’s okay to multitask and know when it is beneficial to multitask and when it is not. I always encourage my students to focus on what needs to be done now or has a timeline. If you have two projects, and one is due in November, and the other in January, don’t delay. Plan to complete the November task, especially if multitasking is not working.
6. It is important to make a to-do list and cross off as I go. Be consistent with scheduled activities, and I will be more efficient.
7. I do not label myself or generalize my actions. I do not like labels, and I believe people will think and act according to their label and get stuck.
8. I make time for the things I have an interest in (cooking and trying out new recipes, listening to music and being more proficient at playing the piano and guitar, sew, paint, make pottery, candles, and lip gloss/lipstick. Things will not get done unless I make them a priority. Continue to develop/explore me.
9. I have to live with the consequences of my behavior, and my consequences can directly or indirectly effect others… My days go a lot better when I have made time for myself.
10. I do not take myself too seriously. Continue to laugh!!