You teach others how to treat you. If others see that you are not a priority in your life, why would they treat you any different?
Posted on February 20, 2017 Leave a Comment
In order to be there effectively and efficiently for others, you must glitter yourself with some love each and every day…..A timeless lesson.
Getting the right amount and quality of foods, rest, and physical activity throughout your day and week are not fads. Adequate rest, meal planning, and physical activity must be a lifestyle. Self-control, perseverance, and time management are not only for a particular portion of our life (job, artistry such as drawing, singing, parenthood, etc) or when a certain event will take place (trip to The Bahamas, or in my case, a trip to Las Vegas) or when you turn a certain age. Self-control, perseverance, and time management must be what we embody regardless of life circumstances. Who we are is reflected in what we say and do.
As a coach/mentor/nurse, if I am going to encourage self-awareness, self-control, perseverance, and time management, I must do my best to embody these behaviors.
We all fall short, at some point in our lives, in perfecting discipline and consistent behaviors, yet it is not about quitting; we must push forward. It is not about blaming yourself or others; it is more about learning and developing better strategies to achieve our goals.
Let’s review some quotes from Napoleon Hill, one of the great authors during the Depression Era, who published Think & Grow Rich in 1937.
” Remember, too, that all who succeed in life get off to a bad start, and pass through many heartbreaking struggles before they arrive. The turning point in the lives of those who succeed usually comes at some moment of crisis, through which they are introduced to their “other selves.” Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich.
“Before success comes in any man’s life, he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat, and perhaps, some failure. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to quit. That is exactly what the majority of men do. More than five hundred of the most successful men this country ever known told the author their greatest success came just one step beyond the point at which defeat had overtaken them.”
We have different scenarios, yet, the same philosophy applies. Do not give up on yourself. Keep moving forward.
Heal within.. within yourself, within families, communities, states, countries and nations. There is enough to go around.
Set the stage. Own your life. Be present. We are phenomenally put together..breathing, moving form of creation.
Timika
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It is so easy to get caught up…Life can become such a blur
Posted on February 19, 2017 2 Comments
BlurTimika’s morning pep talk.
You have set goals. You planned. You were doing well until you saw and made a reason (or excuse) for you to stop–to stay up late with others, to be entertained by T.V. and/or social media, to go to sleep without completing your goals, or not getting up at the time you said you would work on your project. You opted to do something “easier” or “more fun”. You opted to go to sleep.
You are not balancing your energy and time to be more effective and efficient. Your goals are starting to look like a blur, and you wonder do you have it in you to achieve your goals/dreams.
Life is controlling you, instead of you controlling your life.
Now, you are feeling guilty and thinking of stopping or not pursuing your goals.
Do you give up, or do you push forward?
How do you push forward?
You are alive, right? Do you have the mental and physical faculties to do whatever it is you want to do? If the answer is yes, then, it is not too late to change.
Condition yourself to think and believe that each day brings new opportunities and a chance for you to revise your strategy so that you may achieve your goals.
1. Reassess your goals. Are you doing it for you or someone else? What is your intention? What is the end result that you seek? Know that others have their own journey. Are you giving it your best try? How disciplined are you?
Trust and believe in yourself to accomplish what you said you would. Break your goal down into small parts. Use a calendar or accountability and reminder system.
2. Recommit to yourself and your goals regardless of what others are doing.
You will have to answer yourself. Do you want to reminisce about your successes and failures (to say at least you tried) or regret you did not live your life accordingly? Do you want to face the fact that you gave up and never saw how far your gifts and talents could take you?
Your commitment has to be more than just words.
3. Assess your strategy, and be honest. Do you have the right or effective strategy? Do you have gaps in your day that you could be more effective? Is your strategy realistic and too broad? Are you trying to do too many things at once?
4. Do it now. Don’t wait until the “right time”. It will more than likely never be the “right time”. You have to make time, Timika.
This is your mission. This is your journey.
Heal within. Your results will be your barometer.
Discipline=Freedom
Timika
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Lesson 5 : Live another day
Posted on February 14, 2017 4 Comments
We all have our own journey and life issues to learn and grow from. Mother believed that no matter what happened that day or in your past, you should “just live another day.” Another day gives us an opportunity to be creative, to try something different, to say yes to life and learn from our life lessons.
Mother never belittled an event or made the event seemed insignificant. She did not want us to get caught up in life events. Our journey is and will be a process. So, when I did not do well on a test, I learned to not beat myself up and develop a strategy to get better grades. When I had my first break up with a boy, I learned that break ups are bound to happen and be open to other relationships.
I learned that it was okay to laugh at myself, and that life events do not take away from who I am. My self-worth and self-concept are what I make them.
As long as you are living, you have the ability and opportunity to change your thoughts and change your life.
So, whatever it is that you have been through (divorce, separation, loss of money, bullying, loss of job, failed test, failed a course, 5 years in high school/college, totaled a car, loss of baby/child, the list goes on), give life a chance, give yourself a chance and live another day. You never know what tomorrow may bring.
Timika
Timika S Chambers 