Artificial vs. Authentic self?


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.Do you laugh at others when they make  mistakes (otherwise when they experience  life lessons along their journey) or encourage them to keep trying and not to give up. You trust that their missions are their missions in life and not yours, and it is okay that their missions/projects differ from yours.

You know that failing does not mean the end of whatever someone is doing.  Not getting things right the first, second, or 999th time, is a necessary step to get the result you seek.  You know that he or she is in the process of finding out what works and what does not work or what can be added or subtracted to make something better.  Think about what has been written about Thomas Edison (incandescent lighting system), and Walt Disney ( the first day Disney land opened).

2. Do you look to condemn others instead of sending positive thoughts their way and /or praying for them?  We are all connected, whether we admit it or not.

3. Do you want others to just do what you say and not be the role model that is needed to show them the way?  Your principles you teach do apply to you, too.

4. Do you seek relationships based on what others can do for you and not out of an earnest desire to build true relationships?  You try to build relationships not just within your own culture, race, religion, or those who look and act like you.

5. Do you look at the meaning of life as “everybody’s doing wrong” and life is not worth living” or ”nothing goes well for me”,  or do you believe that you have control over your life and by changing your beliefs and thoughts, you can change your actions?   Anything is possible at any age and at any stage in your life.

6. Do you look to compete/compare your life with others instead of focusing, visualizing, and taking responsibility for your own life’s journey and being satisfied with your progress?

7. Are you concerned with sabotaging others and their progress instead of embracing your own spiritual gifts , talents, and skills and how you can nurture and use them to be of service to others?

8. Are you more concerned about how others feel about you and say about you, or are you more concerned about your own spiritual growth and how you can be all that you can (your highest self)?  Your life matters!

9. Do you look for opportunities or use events to make fun of or call someone outside of their name, or do you respect the name that someone was given, just as you were given your birthname?

10.  Are you evolving to your highest self?

Heal within first,



Volunteer: Only what is necessary


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My mother was big on educating us about certain values and principles.  She still says today that “everybody does not need to know everything about you. You don’t have to volunteer information that you don’t want to.” Sometimes when we  welcome new people into our lives, we may feel like they need to know everything about us on the first day or within the first week -where we work, how old we are, the color of your bedroom walls, and what you ate last night, and the list goes on.   It is important to keep a little mystery (within reason) about yourself and not feel like you have to tell everything to get others to like you  It only takes one time to share something with someone you wished you had not of.  Relationships blossom and will continue to grow when  a person likes you for who you are and built on  trust, honesty,  and patience, and not just what they can get out of you or what they know about your personal life.  Some ground rules for me are:

  1. Decide what it is that you are comfortable with sharing about yourself.
  2. Know the intentions for your relationship with the other person.—is it a one time encounter at an event, or someone you would love to get to know better.
  3. Use a little discernment on who you give information to and what information you give them.
  4. Trust yourself to know when it is time to share information.

Please share your comments.


Millions of years ago they roamed the earth


Within the past several months, my son has developed a fascination for dinosaurs.  Cam gets so excited about dinosaurs, and his fav is T-rex.    There is a video about dinosaurs on ABC mouse that he will watch and sing the dinosaur song several times before moving on to his lesson for the day. Of course, he has several dinosaur toys…

At story time this past Tuesday, Cam was so excited when he saw all of the dinosaur books.  Of course, he knew all of the dinosaurs, and had plenty of questions about dinosaurs and their extinction for the librarian. And to add to his excitement,  the librarian brought out dinosaur puppets at the end of story time, and oh boy, Cam’s hand was glued to the dinosaur puppet.  There was a little girl who wanted to see the dinosaur puppet and came over to ask me because Cam was not sharing.

Cam has already started his Christmas list, and I am surprised he has not included dinosaurs on his list; however, he may get a little surprise in his stocking….hint…they roamed the earth millions of years ago.



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