It is so easy to get caught up…Life can become such a blur
Posted on February 19, 2017 2 Comments
BlurTimika’s morning pep talk.
You have set goals. You planned. You were doing well until you saw and made a reason (or excuse) for you to stop–to stay up late with others, to be entertained by T.V. and/or social media, to go to sleep without completing your goals, or not getting up at the time you said you would work on your project. You opted to do something “easier” or “more fun”. You opted to go to sleep.
You are not balancing your energy and time to be more effective and efficient. Your goals are starting to look like a blur, and you wonder do you have it in you to achieve your goals/dreams.
Life is controlling you, instead of you controlling your life.
Now, you are feeling guilty and thinking of stopping or not pursuing your goals.
Do you give up, or do you push forward?
How do you push forward?
You are alive, right? Do you have the mental and physical faculties to do whatever it is you want to do? If the answer is yes, then, it is not too late to change.
Condition yourself to think and believe that each day brings new opportunities and a chance for you to revise your strategy so that you may achieve your goals.
1. Reassess your goals. Are you doing it for you or someone else? What is your intention? What is the end result that you seek? Know that others have their own journey. Are you giving it your best try? How disciplined are you?
Trust and believe in yourself to accomplish what you said you would. Break your goal down into small parts. Use a calendar or accountability and reminder system.
2. Recommit to yourself and your goals regardless of what others are doing.
You will have to answer yourself. Do you want to reminisce about your successes and failures (to say at least you tried) or regret you did not live your life accordingly? Do you want to face the fact that you gave up and never saw how far your gifts and talents could take you?
Your commitment has to be more than just words.
3. Assess your strategy, and be honest. Do you have the right or effective strategy? Do you have gaps in your day that you could be more effective? Is your strategy realistic and too broad? Are you trying to do too many things at once?
4. Do it now. Don’t wait until the “right time”. It will more than likely never be the “right time”. You have to make time, Timika.
This is your mission. This is your journey.
Heal within. Your results will be your barometer.
Discipline=Freedom
Timika
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Lesson 5 : Live another day
Posted on February 14, 2017 4 Comments
We all have our own journey and life issues to learn and grow from. Mother believed that no matter what happened that day or in your past, you should “just live another day.” Another day gives us an opportunity to be creative, to try something different, to say yes to life and learn from our life lessons.
Mother never belittled an event or made the event seemed insignificant. She did not want us to get caught up in life events. Our journey is and will be a process. So, when I did not do well on a test, I learned to not beat myself up and develop a strategy to get better grades. When I had my first break up with a boy, I learned that break ups are bound to happen and be open to other relationships.
I learned that it was okay to laugh at myself, and that life events do not take away from who I am. My self-worth and self-concept are what I make them.
As long as you are living, you have the ability and opportunity to change your thoughts and change your life.
So, whatever it is that you have been through (divorce, separation, loss of money, bullying, loss of job, failed test, failed a course, 5 years in high school/college, totaled a car, loss of baby/child, the list goes on), give life a chance, give yourself a chance and live another day. You never know what tomorrow may bring.
Timika
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Seriousness: You have a right to life…a right to be here.
Posted on February 13, 2017 Leave a Comment
Seriousness
Seriousness…..
Your body is your body, and no one has the right to violate who you are in actions or words. You have the right just like anyone else to enjoy your life and pursue your dreams. You have the right to explore who you are–your gifts and talents without others telling you who you are and fitting into their mold of who they want you to be.
There is power in the word “No” and standing your ground. In fact, many people will respect you when they see that you respect yourself. I know that people should respect us regardless. However, we cannot wait on others to give us what we deserve and is our birthright.
We teach others how to treat us. What actions or words from someone else have offended you? Check first to see if, at some point, you gave the other person the right (verbally or nonverbal ) to treat you this or that way. If so, it is time for a change. Be true to yourself. You are magnificently designed for a reason, and I do not believe it was to be belittled or used for someone else’s punching bag or used in any other negative way.
Let us not wait for others to respect us. Let us show others what respect is. Our children are watching. Our neighbors are watching. Our communities are watching. Our nation is watching. Most importantly you are watching–every day you look in the mirror or see your reflection. You have the power to change. It is not too late to say NO. It is not too late to “take your life back”.
We show our children how to treat others through our actions and words. Children model what they see and hear.
We teach our young boys to respect young girls.
We teach our girls to respect themselves and to expect respect from others.
In the long run, if children are involved, your children may respect you for having the courage to say no and stand up for your right to live.
It may be tough in the beginning. It is not so much about the number of parents in the home. It is more about the quality of parenting.
I am grateful my mother said No….and Yes to her life and raising her children.
You are not alone. Check your local and national resources for support.
Center Against Domestic Violence
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
Heal within,
Timika
Timika S Chambers 