Moody: Sometimes the things we don’t want to do, we need to do.
Posted on December 18, 2016 Leave a Comment
Many individuals, including myself, at times, let our emotions direct our actions. We may give into our negative emotions (feel moody) and start thinking negative about life . Our thoughts influence our actions. As a result of negative thinking, we may stop taking consistent action in achieving our goals.
I spoke to one of my brothers this past Friday, and his life mantra is Process, Progress, and Reward—Richard L. Jones, Jr.
Your journey is a process. Monitor your progress. Graciously accept your reward.
How many times have you found yourself make a goal, plan how you are going to reach the goal, and then find yourself making what you think are valid reasons to stop doing the very things you know you should be doing? One of your excuses may have been “I didn’t feel like doing it because it’s too hard.” The roller coasters you find yourself on may be the result of your emotions. One day you are up, the next day you are down..just like your actions…
You may have made a goal to…
- work out every morning for sixty minutes and suddenly you find yourself making excuses (weather is not right, late night the night before, you are not getting the results quick enough, etc.), and you stop
- read books written by those who have succeeded at what you are trying to do; you are good for about a month, and you stop.
- plan by using a calendar to map out how you will achieve your goals, and you achieve one goal, and you stop.
- Eat healthier foods to lose weight, yet you find yourself going back to your old habits at holidays, parties, vacations, and just because “you want to”, etc.
- Attend a weight loss class or support group because what you are doing is not working and you stop going because it is in the evenings, and you would rather be at home watching your favorite T.V. show.
- Make a list for groceries so that you do not overspend, and you stop because it’s boring or time consuming, and you like spending your money without limits.
I have used excuses that “I just don’t feel like it” or “this is not working out” or “this takes more time, and I would rather not do it.” Later, I would find out that, that action I did not want to do was exactly what I needed to do.
Everyone has a learning curve; the more you do something, the more you will get used to it. The more you are doing it for you and not others, the more you will stick to your goals and plans. The more you positively reward yourself, the more you will stick to your goals, and plan.
Use your emotions to positively fuel you instead of stop you from achieving your goals.
You are worth the investment. Let’s dream in 2017 and beyond.
Decide what it is that you want to do (overall goal) and break down into smaller steps.
Reflect consistently on your goals and progress.
Educate yourself-It has been said that successful people leave clues.
Allow yourself time to work on you
Motivate yourself to be the best you can be. What’s your mantra and tools you use to keep yourself going in the right direction?
What I say to you…I say to myself….
Will you rise to the challenge in 2017? Will you rise to your true self in 2017 and progress forward?
Our journey is a process. Choose progress. Reward yourself.
Timika
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Maddening: Teachable moments
Posted on December 17, 2016 Leave a Comment
I used to find it very irritating or maddening to have to wait on a train, especially when it would sit there, for several minutes, on the track. One day my mother was in the car with me and noticed how impatient I was when we were stopped by a train on the tracks. I was in a hurry to get somewhere.
My mother encouraged me to be patient, and that there are certain things that I cannot change or control. My mother said that actions based on impatience can sometimes lead to negative consequences. “There is no reason for getting angry and “bent out of shape” about the train being on the tracks.”, she said. ” It is best to just sit and wait.” We talked some, and before I knew it, the train had past.
I have had a lot of experiences beyond trains to help me become a more patient person. However, I will never forget the time when my mother and I were driving home, weeks after our conversation about being patient, and saw bodies covered by white sheets on both sides of a train track because the driver thought he could beat the train. You could see the children’s toys scattered all over. I could not believe what I was seeing. It validated what my mom told me weeks ago.
Even right now, I wonder where would I be had my mother and I not talked about the importance of being patient.
Timika
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Folly: let go of the pain, there is very little to gain.
Posted on December 16, 2016 2 Comments
“Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. However, if it taught you to hold onto grudges, seek revenge, not forgive or show compassion, to categorize people as good or bad, to distrust and be guarded with your feelings then you didn’t learn a thing. God doesn’t bring you lessons to close your heart. He brings you lessons to open it, by developing compassion, learning to listen, seeking to understand instead of speculating, practicing empathy and developing conflict resolution through communication. If he brought you perfect people, how would you ever learn to spiritually evolve?”
― Shannon L. Alder
I believe the above quote says it all. Change your perspective about your journey, and you change your thoughts and your actions. For example, Brian Tracy, a motivational speaker and self-development author, encourages individuals to believe that the universe conspires to help us instead of hurting us. We choose our thoughts; we choose our behaviors.
Heal within,
Timika
Timika S Chambers 