Ovation…for you!
Posted on December 28, 2016 2 Comments
If you have not done it already today, stand up and give a thunderous ovation for yourself. For what, you might ask?
1. For staying on your journey through ups and downs-disappointments, distractions,etc. You have not given up on yourself, and why should you?
- For believing in yourself –your life, your gifts, talents, and experiences. You know that you were put here for a reason. There is no one like you, and there never will be. You are unique and beautifully made, period.
- For being the best person you know how to be. No time for regrets, shame, or belittling yourself. Your story is your journey. Your story is what makes you phenomenal and powerful.
- For dreaming and having visions for your life…for your family. Even if you think you are the only one who believes in your possibilities, please continue to believe. Some people like to see results before they believe in something. Also, others may not see your vision”¦”¦The test is for you to have faith and not concern yourself so much with what others think.
- For preparing for another great year…..even better than 2016.
I am sure you can find something now to be thankful for. It does not have to be huge or proper. You may just be thankful that you made it home tonight!
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” Melody Beattie
Heal within,
Timika
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Retreat: Go within for lasting change.
Posted on December 27, 2016 2 Comments
What life lesson or lessons do you keep repeating? Do you keep dating the same kind of person, whether he or she is emotionally absent or abusive towards you? Are you always dieting, or dealing with the ups and downs of weight loss and weight gain, never really having long lasting change? Are you struggling with healthy eating versus and being on a diet? Healthy eating is a lifestyle instead of limiting yourself from foods for a certain amount of time. Are you struggling with quitting smoking, checking your blood sugars consistently, or any other desired goal?
If we keep doing something repeatedly, despite knowing that the behavior is not helping us and instead is causing more harm, we need to retreat inside to get to the root cause of our behavior. Until we get to the root cause of our behavior, we will keep repeating the same behavior and/or pick up other negative behaviors.
Some things to consider:
1. Become more aware of your behavior. Spend time with yourself (i.e. meditation) and/or ask loved ones what they notice about your behavior (consequences of your behavior, when you do it, where you do it, and any other cues). Note the when, where, how you do something, and eventually the why will surface as you start seeing a pattern in your behavior. I believe that when we are truthful with ourselves and ask the right questions, we will eventually get the right answers.
2. Identify and be real about what type of help you will need to master yourself and diminishing unhealthy behaviors.
3. Be patient with yourself. Changing a behavior is a process. You did not pick up the behavior overnight.
4. Work on one behavior at a time. Sometimes we get so excited by change and get caught up in the emotions, we want to tackle anything and everything.
5. Positively reward yourself throughout the process. Be creative in your reward and decrease your temptation to go back to negative behavior (read a book, find a mentor, join a support group, find and cook a healthy recipe, etc.)
Heal within,
Timika
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Calm: when things don’t quite go your way
Posted on December 24, 2016 Leave a Comment
I remember thinking as a young girl that things are not what they seem. Our life’s journey is so much deeper than what we see and experience. It is not so much about what you are going through, but how you respond to whatever it is that you are going through. We all have and will continue to experience things that will provide an opportunity (for some a challenge) for growth. It’s our perspective that will help shape our experience and guide our actions.
It is more about what we need to learn from our experiences. I know it is easier said than done at times. But if we stop blaiming ourself and/or others for what we experience and take responsibility for our beliefs, thoughts, and actions and ask “what am I to learn” instead of “who can I blame”, we may start to see the world and our journey in a different light.
Timika
