Timika S Chambers

Say Yes to Respect!

Posted on November 2, 2023     Leave a Comment

Hi there,

One life taken is too many. One life spared helps many.

I don’t want to have a conversation after something potentially traumatic happens. I’d rather conversate now and “nip things in the bud,” one of the life principles my mother taught me. I started talking to my children about love, privacy, and self-respect during infancy. Although I knew my babies couldn’t articulate what they heard, I knew their hearts and minds received my heart-inspired messages.

Bullying has so many factors involved. We must address the foundation of the people being bullied and those who project their pain on others. Guardians, parents, school administrators, teachers, coaches, and others must be aware of bullying-type behavior and address it accordingly, even if it means unveiling unhealthy behavior in homes, schools, and other establishments.

Here are five interventions I continue to do within my family.

1. Cultivate communication within my family. Everything starts within the home, especially when children find their voices. The more we realize this, the more accountable we hold ourselves to our children’s behavior and increase responsibility in addressing unhealthy actions. A child’s issue is a family’s issue.
2. Ask my children child about the day’s events. I ask questions such as: What happened today? Did you hear or see anything troublesome (cursing, inappropriate language, fighting, yelling, etc.)? Was anything done to resolve the issue? Sometimes, we delay homework so that my children can express their emotions, feelings, and the day’s events. By addressing behaviors, we reinforce the moral foundation within ourselves, our children, and hopefully others involved.
3. Address unhealed wounds so I can be present to break the cycle. Change starts with you as the parent. It’s hard to see someone else’s pain when yours imprisons you. Self-assessment and intervention are pivotal to breaking the generational cycle of pain.
4. Seek the truth and cultivate truth within my family. Several years ago, I encouraged my children to speak the truth, for I am on the side of truth. Often, we are silent because we want to uphold the status quo, but upholding the status quo provides a hiding space for unhealthy behavior. My family and I continue to address bullying-type behavior in all environments, including schools.
5. Act immediately. I don’t like when I have to tell grown people that their actions or others’ aren’t okay. And, yes, fear visits me during many of my experiences. However, the desire to break the cycle overrules.

Don’t let things happen for you to take experiences seriously. You have the right to create the family you want, and it’s okay if it looks different from what you experienced as a child. As parents, we must help our children build a solid character foundation to weather life’s storms. We won’t always be with them, but life principles, listening to and addressing our children’s concerns (and adults) can help them go far in life.

You can also listen to the Seeds We Plant Series #22: Respect on Create a Generational Love Cycle.

The Seeds We Plant Series #65: Is Resentment Growing In Your Garden and Keeping You from Experiencing an Abundant Life? – Create A Generational Love Cycle With Timika S Chambers

Keywordsself-awareness, emotional health, gardening metaphor,resentment, personal growth, spiritual truth, mental health, emotional resilience, positive thinking, self-careSummaryIn this episode of the Seeds We Plant series, TamikaChambers explores the metaphor of gardening to discuss how negative emotions, particularly resentment, can take root in our hearts and minds, affecting ouroverall well-being. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, acknowledgment, and the power of choice in transforming these negative feelings into positive growth. By understanding the impact of our thoughts and emotions, we can cultivate a more fulfilling and loving life, not only for ourselves but also for future generations.TakeawaysNegative emotions can suffocate our spiritual growth.We have the power to control our thoughts and feelings.Resentment can change our behavior and relationships.Acknowledging our feelings is the first step to healing.Our thoughts create our reality and impact others.We can choose to plant seeds of love instead of pain.Honesty with ourselves leads to personal growth.The legacy we leave is shaped by our emotional health.We must be aware of the hidden scars we carry.Self-care and positive thinking are essential forwell-being.TitlesCultivating Inner Peace: The Seeds We PlantTransforming Resentment into GrowthSound Bites "Life will bring out hidden scars.""Acknowledge that resentment is there.""Our thoughts create our reality.""We deserve better than resentment."Chapters 00:00 The Seeds We Plant: Understanding Our Inner Garden02:53 The Impact of Negative Emotions06:09 Resentment: The Weeds in Our Garden09:01 The Power of Acknowledgment and Honesty12:00 Transforming Resentment into Growth15:03 Creating a Legacy of Love and PositivityTimika Chambers, Author/WriterIntegrative Nutrition Health CoachNCLEX Prep Coach/Tutor Book Your Free 30-minute consultation: https://calendly.com/timikaj/30minhttps://classful.com/timika-chambers/ https://fulfillyourdivinepurpose.thinkific.com/ https://fdyp.etsy.comPhone:  503-753-7538Office hours:  Monday- Friday, 8 am- 5 pm Pacific Time. I usually reply to emails within 24-48 hours. If you have not heard back from me within the allotted time, please email, text, or call me.Sign up for the Notes on Life Newsletter:  Empowering You to Be You! https://mailchi.mp/fe2da5c9163a/seven-spiritual-truthsRemember Who You Are https://timikaschambers.com/Fulfill Your Divine Purpose Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/timikaschambersPodcast:  https://anchor.fm/timika-chambers

1. The Seeds We Plant Series #65: Is Resentment Growing In Your Garden and Keeping You from Experiencing an Abundant Life? 23:56
2. Heal from the Inside Out Series #34: How My Mother's Words of Wisdom "Keep a Pure Heart" Helped Me Heal 23:54
3. Heal from the Inside Out Series #33: Clean Up As You Go 27:34
4. The Seeds We Plant Series #64: Envy 18:05
5. Heal from the Inside Out Series #32: Embrace Your Body's Ability to Heal 21:35

One life taken is too many. One life spared helps many.

One voice — -one action can change the trajectory of many lives.

Make this lifetime great because you still can!