Who Are You Permitting To Plant Seeds of Doubt?

Is anyone telling you something that is contrary to your core beliefs? If so, how are you discerning healthy seeds from harmful ones? Do you know who you are so that you do not fall for who you are not?

During my reading time yesterday, Genesis 3:1 awakened me to an old technique that can cause us to doubt the truth within our hearts and minds. Genesis 3:1 reads “now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, Did God really say, You must not eat from any tree in the garden?”

The technique the snake used is appearing to know more than what Adam and Eve knew and had been told.

Before Eve’s encounter with the snake, God gave Adam and Eve clear instructions on what they could eat, but desires for more wisdom and to taste the fruit (susceptibility) drove Eve to eat the fruit and share it with Adam.

From ages 5 to 10, two male family members misused my developing body. Both of them used actions and words (force and kindness) contrary to what I felt was right, but my confusion, seeds of doubt, and susceptibility kept me quiet for years, denying the truth within me.

J & S was not my first experience with abuse. Before the age of five, I reported to another family member that my father was abusing my mother. Seeds of doubt planted while my father berated me for telling the family’s secret.

Shortly after the abuse secret was out, I realized that my focus must be on decreasing my susceptibility to false information instead of spending a lot of time in anger, fear, and potentially destructive habits. Therefore, I sought alignment with nature and a personal relationship with my Creator. I still experienced weeds, but I became more proficient at recognizing and ridding them.

Throughout my personal and professional life as a nurse and health coach, I have witnessed the power of words, but more importantly I realized that the state of our inner garden is what permits harmful seeds (words) to grow.

Often, my mother told us that “as long as people have tongues they will talk.” This is true. Therefore, the way I see it, the best way to utilize my energy, money, and time is by attending to my own garden.

Not too long after the secret was out, S, the nicer one tempted me with doubt.

(Here is an excerpt from Bent Not Broken, my soon-to-be published memoir about my experience with sexual abuse).

“One day, after the secret was out, we were playing outside with S. Before I knew it, he was standing in front of me with his back facing me. Within a matter of seconds, he turned to me and said “it wasn’t that bad.” I stood there shocked by what I just heard. I wondered if anyone heard him, but everyone was laughing and running around. In a round-about way, S was admitting what happened between us. From day one, he denied his involvement in the sexual abuse and blamed J. No matter what, I knew that telling on him was the right thing to do. Sex with children is wrong.

Throughout my life, I have encountered many weeds, but now more than ever I know that preparing and saturating my garden with living water, planting healthy seeds, and daily maintenance is an absolute necessity. I know that my life could have been worse if I had not sought to know my Truth and my Creator. I do not get hung up on religious behaviors or what to call our Creator. The Truth is what I seek, and the Truth is within me.

Unfortunately, weeds have a way of finding good soil, and they can look so pretty and inviting. As a novice gardener, I am learning this Truth. It is up to us to know what our core beliefs are and to have something stable to measure what we hear and see.

How do I get in touch with my Truth? I meditate, pray, and read and watch empowering and inspiration works. I use the principles within the Bible to reinforce my foundation.

Our mind is the master controller of our body. We must cultivate thoughts of honor, respect, and love and remove weeds of doubt, for if they are allowed to grow, they can look so pretty and inviting.

We must hold unto our truth.

The Bible continues to open up truths to me and the mindset to transcend life experiences, even using the lessons of others. That’s what made Jesus so effective in dealing with bitterness, criticism, jealousy, and the like. When we know the truth and beyond knowing, we see the distractions a mile away. We do not succumb to the pressures of life because we know who we are. I am not mad at S for asking me that question that day, because the thought helped me to reestablish who I wanted to be and convict me to my truth.

Anything used to silence someone, whether through force or kindness is not right. God did not give us dominion over people, but over fish, birds, and creatures.

No matter the technique, having sex with children is not honoring the human body. No matter how long sex with minors have been around, children are children for a reason.

Who is in your ear slowly steering you from your truth? Have you detoured from your Truth and trying to find your way back?

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Don’t give up

Roller coaster life


Up and down you go,
Sometimes fast & sometimes slow,
To the left, to the right,
Until your dreams and goals appear out of sight.

Bouts of laughter, copious tears

Catching a glimpse of never-ending fears,
Keep your eyes on the prize.
You will look back with amazed eyes.
You are more than your circumstances.
Give yourself unlimited chances.
To soar as high as you can go,
You are where you belong and rightfully so
Stronger, clearer, and focused,

Beaten up, but not hopeless,

Sit back and relax, here comes your stop.

Look at you rising to the top.

Set realistic expectations & know every day may not go as planned.  Have a Plan A, Plan B, and a Plan C.  If you are always quitting when unexpected things happen, will this be your habitual way of handling life when things get “tough?”

Be prepared for what you ask for.  If you want to live in New York, do not be surprised when the perfect job offer is in New York.  If you prayed for a good man to show up, try not to self-sabotage the relationship because of your unresolved issues.

Remind yourself daily of your goals and dreams.  I have my “mirror words” and flash cards at my bedside to remind me of what I want to accomplish.  I also have a vision board above my desk.  Maybe it is time to take up meditation and daily visualization for yourself. Put sticky notes where you can see them daily (frig, mirror, door, etc.)

Consistent work.  There are days when we do not feel like doing whatever it is we should be doing (writing,  practicing an instrument, making cold calls to get the word out about your business, etc.) I know I have days I just want to relax and not do anything.   If we are not working towards our dreams/goals, who are we working for?  If we want our life to change, we have to be willing to change our life.  How many times have you lounge around the house and said you were not going to do anything that day? You were in your pajamas sitting on the couch watching your favorite TV show.  Your friend call, and as soon as you heard the words, “I need you” for something, you got dressed in under 5 minutes.

Consistent work intensifies your desire to achieve your dreams/goals.

If you are consistent in your behavior, your actions will eventually become second nature (usually under 3 months).

If you can do it for others, you can do it for yourself.  How can we truly be there for others when we cannot be there for ourselves?