Your Individualized Healing Path Depends On…..

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How we respond to our pain becomes the lenses to how we interpret our emotions, experiences, feelings, and thoughts. Like physical symptoms, our mental symptoms provide the necessary input to help us heal.

Since I was a young girl, I loved walking. Sometimes, I would walk in the house, in our front yard, or to the park. There is something about putting one foot in front of the other and receiving clarity of thought.

Sometime after my experience with incestual sexual abuse ended, as I was walking in the living room, a thought came to me. “Life is about building character.” Then, I thought life experiences test my character. I needed to work on myself instead of spending time rehashing what happened. On that day, the student approach to life was birthed.

When the thoughts of feeling like trash and being scared of men came to me, I realized who I didn’t want to be. I didn’t want to spend a lifetime of suffering. I wanted to enjoy my life, for I felt it was my right to do so. 

When I felt angry, disappointed, guilty, shameful, resentful, and vengeful, I allowed myself to feel my emotions and feelings. Somehow I knew that denying my experience with sexual abuse and how I felt were not helpful to me. As a student of life, I needed to accept my entire childhood sexual abuse experience. 

Thankfully, I didn’t know what sexual abuse, incestual abuse, and manipulation meant as a child. Not labeling my experience helped me to focus on being who I wanted to be.

As time went on, I realized that my emotions, feelings, and thoughts were not to hurt me but to help me heal from the inside out. I didn’t make excuses for the two family members or myself. I accepted and acknowledged my part for keeping the dark secret.

All of us have the potential to heal. Our healing path depends a lot on how we perceive our mental symptoms and the world. If we believe others are out to get us, then we are a victim. If we believe that our mind and body are against us, we will see them as traitors and treat them as such. 

But, if we truly believe that our mind and body are speaking to us to heal us, we are moving along the path to accepting ourselves, including our past. 

The more we deny what happened to us, the more we prolong what is rightfully ours.

There is an individualized healing path leading us out of the dark wilderness of childhood sexual abuse to the other side of pain. Acceptance and love are waiting for you.

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How long we prolong our divine right to heal and enjoy our gift of life is up to us. If no one has told you, I am telling you that your story matters and so does your healing. I know that healing is possible and a process and you deserve every moment of joy, freedom, and living your best life. 

May you find your healing path and reunite with your purpose in life. You deserve it!


MSN BSN RN, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, ACE Fitness Instructor, CDCES

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How To Keep Fighting and Standing For What You Believe In

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One of my pet peeves is someone interfering with the dreams of another. We have the right to keep fighting for our dreams and standing for our beliefs. We have abilities, experiences, gifts, and talents within us that desire expression.

When I was a young girl, I learned about my father’s opposition to my mother’s dream to become a nurse. My mother told us that he always had something else to do instead of babysitting us so our mother could study.

At one point, he threw my mother’s books into the dumpster outside of our Memphis apartment. He even showed up at her job despite the manager’s request, and my mother lost her job.

After experiencing incestual sexual abuse, I was hungry to accomplish something in my life. I needed something to drive me in a different direction. But, I remember not just being angry about my father’s lack of support. I was angry that he felt he had the right to oppose another’s dreams. The same day I heard about my father’s counterattack is the day I said, “he may have stopped you, but he will not stop me.”

In my personal life, I have observed anger, bitterness, and resentment in people who have not accomplished their goals, which makes me more determined to accomplish my dreams and help others do the same.

As a student of life, I knew that information was vital to existence. It’s even more critical to deciphering what you know and need to know.

As a nurse, I continued to help others who felt left out of the information loop in caring for themselves. While working as a hospital educator and a nursing instructor, I built resource guides because I wanted to know as much as possible to help others achieve and sustain health.

I’ve helped people understand how their medications work, take their medications at the right time and right way, lose weight, feel more confident about managing their health, get off their medications, eat healthier, and spend more time doing the things they loved.

My mother taught me to give from the heart, and if we have something to give, give it. Information is not mine to retain. As educators, we want people to think for themselves, but sometimes people need you to make that first step for them. One of the best things I can do to show others I care is by giving them the information they need, including obtaining accurate, reliable, and timely resources.

Just because someone opposes you doesn’t mean you have to give up. I’ll never forget what one of my clients told me. She said, “my doctor told me I couldn’t do it, but I knew I could. And, I did it.” BG.

Whatever you have opposing you, please know there is always a way to get something done.

The first question to ask is……Do you believe you can do it? Then ask, what do you need to know?

Make this lifetime great!


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