Center yourself with Lesson 7: No excuses


Let’s get to the center of who we truly are.

Our mother continues to support us during our life’s journey by listening and offering constructive criticism.  One of her favorite sayings is “if you like it, I love it.” It is when we are stagnant in our actions, yet we keep talking about whatever it is, that she would and continues to say “don’t talk me to death, do it).  Just like the Nike commercial, right?

Be true to yourself.  Value who you are.  Your actions will emulate how you feel about yourself.

If you can do it for others, you can do it for yourself.

  1. If you are tired, take a nap. (You would probably tell a close friend to do the same if he or she was tired).
  2. Treat yourself to something.  (Do not wait for others to treat you.  You are worth the cost….within reason, of course!)
  3. Learn a new skill/educate yourself. (If you do not do it, who will?)
  4. If you are overweight, educate yourself about resources, set a plan, and discipline yourself to follow the plan.  (A workout buddy may be helpful; however, remember that you are working out for yourself, and your physical activity is not dependent on who can or who cannot join you).


When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. – Maya Angelou

There is nothing wrong with expecting the best from others.  However, take the time to assess your relationship with others.

We teach people how to treat us.  Silence may mean acceptance.

  1.  If someone is calling you names (unpleasant one) other than your birth name, remind them of your name and decide if this is a relationship worth keeping.  Do not assume that “he or she will get better if I just give him or her more time
  2. If someone is hitting you or abusing you in any way, assess if staying with this person is confirming how you want to be treated.
  3.  If you only hear from someone when they want something, or you feel you are always calling or initiating activities with this person, then maybe you need to assess the relationship and decide how you want to be treated.

Friends should lift you up instead of tear you down.  Your personal development should be just as important to your friends as your personal development is to you.  We may not get to choose who our family members are, but we can sure choose how we want the relationships to be.  Just because someone is family, does not mean that he or she has the right to belittle/bully you.  You set the standard.

We always have a choice to set the standards/boundaries for our relationship.  If you want to be treated better by others, treat yourself better first.  You are the example.  Others will either keep walking or stay to get to know the extraordinary person you truly are.

I have always felt that I should not have to force someone to like me or treat me well.  I can, however, show ot how I want to be treated.

Heal within,

Laugh, live, and love



If only life was that simple….


Are we making life harder than what it really is?

What did you do today or within the last week to put yourself closer to achieving your dreams?
Some people have:
Quit their day job,
Reduced their work hours,
Left a relationship that was not working,
Started using a calendar to jot down their goals for each day
Started using a weekly to-do-list
Searched internet and newspapers possible jobs to finance their dream career
Started back writing, rapping, singing, dancing, drawing, etc.
Put up a vision board to help keep them focused and determined

What have you done this week or even today to commit to your success?

Will 2017 be just another year you made goals for yourself with no change in lifestyle one year, two years, or 20 years from now?

A couple of goals I have this year are to read at least 1 book a week and to write every day from 5-6 A.M. I keep going back to writing, and I want to explore the writer in me.

We can change how we act with how we think. Before you know it, you are doing what you thought was difficult and inconceivable.

Give yourself a chance to be you. Be true to who you are.


I never judged a song by the color of a singer’s skin, culture, or even by the clothes he or she wore.

If the song/ lyrics, whether Blues, Country, R&B, rap, etc spoke to my spirit, it became my favorite song. The gift to sing, to speak to the soul and spirit of others is a wonderful and awe-inspiring gift. It is not about the messenger; it’s about the message.

Tim Mgraw’s song “Live like you were dying”  came to me after doing some self-reflection journaling this am. 

You never know when something or someone may no longer be available. I am trying to live life with purpose and intention and not just assume things will work out. 
Heal within,

Make 2017 your best year ever. We can do this.