You teach others how to treat you. If others see that you are not a priority in your life, why would they treat you any different?


In order to be there effectively and efficiently for others, you must glitter yourself with some love each and every day…..A timeless lesson.

Glitter

Getting the right amount and quality of foods, rest, and physical activity throughout your day and week are not fads. Adequate rest, meal planning, and physical activity must be a lifestyle. Self-control, perseverance, and time management are not only for a particular portion of our life (job, artistry such as drawing, singing, parenthood, etc) or when a certain event will take place (trip to The Bahamas, or in my case, a trip to Las Vegas) or when you turn a certain age. Self-control, perseverance, and time management must be what we embody regardless of life circumstances. Who we are is reflected in what we say and do.

As a coach/mentor/nurse, if I am going to encourage self-awareness, self-control, perseverance, and time management, I must do my best to embody these behaviors.

We all fall short, at some point in our lives, in perfecting discipline and consistent behaviors, yet it is not about quitting; we must push forward.  It is not about blaming yourself or others; it is more about learning and developing better strategies to achieve our goals.

Let’s review some quotes from Napoleon Hill, one of the great authors during the Depression Era, who published Think & Grow Rich in 1937.

” Remember, too, that all who succeed in life get off to a bad start, and pass through many heartbreaking struggles before they arrive. The turning point in the lives of those who succeed usually comes at some moment of crisis, through which they are introduced to their “other selves.” Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich.

“Before success comes in any man’s life, he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat, and perhaps, some failure. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to quit. That is exactly what the majority of men do. More than five hundred of the most successful men this country ever known told the author their greatest success came just  one step beyond the point at which defeat had overtaken them.” 

We have different scenarios, yet, the same philosophy applies. Do not give up on yourself. Keep moving forward. 
Heal within.. within yourself,  within families, communities, states, countries and nations. There is enough to go around.

Set the stage. Own your life. Be present. We are phenomenally put together..breathing, moving form of creation.

 
Timika

Too many times the outward approval of others becomes the goal of our actions instead of being true to ourselves. When we seek the approval of others, we are saying that we are not good enough, and that we need others to validate our worth. My mother would remind us that when you do something for another person, do not stay stuck there waiting on applauses, awards, or anything else. Do it and keep moving.

When we do things from the heart, we are not concerned about another’s reaction, even so much as a “thank you”. Our intentions are in alignment with a higher power and not for show or approval. Our satisfaction comes from the ability to give instead of receiving.

Thank you Mom!

Heal within

Timika

Rearrange my life to keep my sanity?

Rearrange

 

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Albert Einstein

Intellectually, I knew my life needed a change years ago, and it has been a journey! I used to think that once someone became a mother, “that’s it! Your life is over. You don’t have time for anything else.” I am the one who planted those beliefs and have had to dig them up by the roots and throw them away….

I would hear so many mothers talk about how they did not have time for themselves, and honestly, it should not and does not have to be that way. I know some single mothers who managed to earn a college degree or further their career and still raise their children. I know because I was raised by a single mother. Who says that a mother cannot continue to develop her gifts and talents and enjoy doing things for herself and taking time out to replenish her soul?

Two great quotes by Henry Ford will empower you if you let them:

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”
― Henry Ford

“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.”
― Henry Ford

In the past, I tried different techniques to help keep me accountable. I tried printing out and posting a schedule I made out using Cozi Family Organizer http://www.cozi.com/. I know the schedule by heart because I have also written it down multiple times, as well. It’s great to use reminders. I realized, though, that my beliefs needed to be dealt with and challenged.

I can honestly say that a recent vacation helped me to clear my head and truly think about things that are truly important to me. I love my family, and I love myself, too. I concluded that:

1. I am the one in charge of my life….my mother would always tell me that and even today, she finds a way to squeeze the reminder in our conversations.

2. Everything does not have to be done today. I need to prioritize and plan for tomorrow…hopefully, I will see another day.

3. My health-physical, mental, emotion, and spiritual, is important as is everyone else.

4. I need to be organized-I function better and able to make the most use of my time. If tasks have a day and time to be completed, then I tend to use my time more efficiently, and many times within the past week, I realize how much free time I have when I am organized.

5. It is better for me to focus on one task at a time until its completion. It’s okay to multitask and know when it is beneficial to multitask and when it is not. I always encourage my students to focus on what needs to be done now or has a timeline. If you have two projects, and one is due in November, and the other in January, don’t delay. Plan to complete the November task, especially if multitasking is not working.

6. It is important to make a to-do list and cross off as I go. Be consistent with scheduled activities, and I will be more efficient.

7. I do not label myself or generalize my actions. I do not like labels, and I believe people will think and act according to their label and get stuck.

8. I make time for the things I have an interest in (cooking and trying out new recipes, listening to music and being more proficient at playing the piano and guitar, sew, paint, make pottery, candles, and lip gloss/lipstick. Things will not get done unless I make them a priority. Continue to develop/explore me.

9. I have to live with the consequences of my behavior, and my consequences can directly or indirectly effect others… My days go a lot better when I have made time for myself.

10. I do not take myself too seriously. Continue to laugh!!