Sated: Some rest, relaxation, and pursue my goals

Sated

Gratitude filled my heart yesterday (family, friends, job, roof over our head, food in our refrigerator, safe travels, and much more to be grateful for). I was happily sated with good food, family, and just life period. However, it did not take long for this mother of two to find my sanctuary. The combination of peacefulness and gratitude put me at ease, so much so that I was sleep before 7pm. I thought I would sit journal, reflect, and write. My body had other plans.
I am participating in National Writing Month (http://nanowrimo.org), to write a minimal of a 50, 000-word novel in 30 days. I have known about National Writing Month for a couple of years and decided to participate this year because I wanted to see if I could rise to the challenge. Am I disciplined and creative enough? What will I learn about myself? Really, what have I got to lose?
Yesterday, I was at around 35,000 words. Currently, I am at a little over 38,000 words, so I need to make the best of my weekend. I love 4-day weekends, and usually the first day is mellowing out, which I still did yesterday even with all the cooking and family time. I want to achieve my goals and spend time just relaxing.
I know I need to take care of my health and listen to my body. There are so many negative effects of not getting enough rest. If your body does not get the rest it needs, then you are more susceptible to mental and physical stress. Plus, in my experience, when you do what you are supposed to do things have a way of working out.
How can I fully be there for others when I am not there for myself? I know many mothers have felt that there is very little time to pamper themselves. We must make time for us. Even if that time is split up (15 minutes am, 20 minutes in afternoon, etc.) Think ahead about what it is you want to accomplish for the day. When that window of time opens, use it. Don’t just wait for a different window of time. You may not get the time you think you will get. For example, the kids may not take that 2pm nap today. So use the time you get or lose it.
I have seen mothers put their dreams and passions on hold to raise their children, and some mothers would be full of resentment and bitterness, because they never did what they wanted to do. When I turn 80, I would like to say that yes, I took care of our children, and I took care of myself, too. I believe we can still pursue those things that we love and feed our soul, while caring for our children. I don’t want to live with resentment and trying to live life when our children are in their 20’s. I want a win-win in both my personal and professional life.
I am still trying to stay focused this weekend. One of my priorities is to write another 7-10,000 words this weekend.
Timika

Resentment

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel.  Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” -Catherine Ponder

When I ponder the first part of the quote above” you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel” and individuals I perceived to have wronged me , there isn’t anyone I really want to be that close to for an extended period of time.  I must admit that I used to hold grudges for long periods of time, but the more I realized how I was hurting myself and blocking my gifts/blessings, the more I began to let go.  I began to see that holding grudges was a waste of time….a waste of my time.  My strongest desire is to be me…my highest self and explore who I am and how I fit into this world….I  want to continue to grow and unfold into who I am destined to be. Right now, unnecessary baggage can only get in the way, and I have enought to deal with in my life.

If you  think of an event or someone you perceived has wronged you often (mornings, evenings, when things go wrong), you have a problem.  If you say that you hate this person and what they stand for and find yourself repeating words in the same tone /manner and start acting like them or better yet, someone tells you , “hey, you just reminded me of……(that person you say you despise), then you have a really really BIG problem.  Your focus has become the other person and what they did or said to you….No one deserves that much of my time…Trust me….they are probably not thinking of you that often…

As you probably noticed, I used the words perceive or perceived
wrong doing.  It has always and will be always my decision and your decision on how we interpret what someone says  or does.  In any given situation,  I can choose to interpret that person or event as the world is conspiring against me or choose to listen to the message and not get so caught up in the messenger and how the message was presented.  I can choose to see the good in any situation and choose how I want to respond.  Even if I respond by saying something negative at first, I can reflect on my response, and learn from it.  I can then ask myself why did I respond that way and what could I have done differently? Even if that other person meant to hurt you….remember that “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive.”  Gensis 50:20

After years of hearing and reading about the  the importance of forgiveness,  I am getting better at not holding grudges and understanding why forgiveness is for me and not the other person.  When you are constantly looking back and thinking about an event or thinking of someone who you perceived has done you wrong, you are wasting time if you are brewing in negativity, resentment, and revenge.   Looking back in the past at perceived negative events can cause you to miss blessings and your next steps in making your dreams and goals come true.  You are not fully present, and can literally trip over and miss your next big move.  Your brain is not focused on the now, and you are missing important keys to understanding yourself and living your best life.

Being a nurse and reflecting on our wonderful body and its response to stress and negativity, we are doing more harm to our body when we are holding on to grudges and resenting others.  Almost every known condition and rare condition there is, is somehow related to stress we put on our body…including emotional/mental stress.

I just finished reading Success through a Postive Mental Attitude by  Napoleon Hill . What a great book!  It was easy to read with great examples on how to apply the principles discussed in the book.  I came across lots of great quotes, and I absolutely love the quote “Direct your thoughts, control our emotions, and ordain our destiny.  My mother would always say what’s done is done. Move on.  If you do not move on with your life now, when will you move?  It’s a waste of energy and time to hold on to grudges and resent others. We all have our limited time here on earth.  What are you doing with that time….carrying someone else’s baggage, thinking about how you can get someone else back?

Let’s heal and life our best life!

Timika