Folly: let go of the pain, there is very little to gain.

Folly

“Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. However, if it taught you to hold onto grudges, seek revenge, not forgive or show compassion, to categorize people as good or bad, to distrust and be guarded with your feelings then you didn’t learn a thing. God doesn’t bring you lessons to close your heart. He brings you lessons to open it, by developing compassion, learning to listen, seeking to understand instead of speculating, practicing empathy and developing conflict resolution through communication. If he brought you perfect people, how would you ever learn to spiritually evolve?”
― Shannon L. Alder

I believe the above quote says it all. Change your perspective about your journey, and you change your thoughts and your actions. For example, Brian Tracy, a motivational speaker and self-development author, encourages individuals to believe that the universe conspires to help us instead of hurting us. We choose our thoughts; we choose our behaviors.

Heal within,

Timika

Copycat: No thank you!

Copycat

Many individuals, across the spectrum of race, religion, gender, age, culture, etc.) have done and continue to do some amazing things.  Some of our great leaders continue to use their status to advocate for others and encourage us to be who we are; these influential individuals, include, but are not limited to Oprah, Denzel Washington, Tyler Perry, Michael Jordan, Serena Williams, Arthur Ash, and Martin Luther King.  Other great leaders, I admire, include anyone who takes a stand against negative action, exemplify courage and advocate for all to be treated equal are great in my book. It’s not so much about the messenger, though, it is about the message that is being shared with you.  The message I hear and see over and over is  to be yourself–to be who you were created to be. You get to decide who you want to be.  I believe it is important to embrace and nurture you and not so much focus on the faults of others.

We all have work to do.  Choose beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors that you feel is right for you and does not violate the rights of others ……

There is nothing like being yourself–to embrace who you are and everything that comes with you (taller than everyone in your class, wear bifocals, one foot larger than the other,  unique voice, etc.).  When you think that you stand out in the crowd, because you have decided to be yourself and do what’s right or right to you, then be proud of yourself.  Being you is priceless.

  1. I love waking up each morning and getting another chance to live my life regardless of my past.

2.I appreciate the opportunity for second, third, fourth chances and so on to get

things just right.

  1. I love designing my own wardrobe and not worrying about what’s in style.  If you wait long enough, whatever it is will come back in style.

4. I appreciate learning from my own life lessons and the lessons of others—

…..    preferably more  from the lessons of others

5. I appreciate my brain and the ability to think for myself. I love the ability to

self-evaluate and continue to get better at what I do….the list goes on……

 

 

I hope you love yourself and continue to feel comfortable in your own skin.  It’s pretty cool to know that there is only one of me and one of you!!

Timika