Moody: Sometimes the things we don’t want to do, we need to do.


Many individuals, including myself, at times, let our emotions direct our actions.   We may give into our negative emotions (feel moody) and start thinking negative about life .  Our thoughts influence our actions.  As a result of negative thinking, we may stop taking consistent action in achieving our goals.

I spoke to one of my brothers this past Friday, and his life mantra is Process, Progress, and Reward—Richard L. Jones, Jr.

Your journey is a process.  Monitor your progress.  Graciously accept your reward.

How many times have you found yourself make a goal, plan how you are going to reach the goal, and then find yourself making what you think are valid reasons to stop doing the very things you know you should be doing?  One of your excuses may have been “I didn’t feel like doing it because it’s too hard.”  The roller coasters you find yourself on may be the result of your emotions.  One day you are up, the next day you are down..just like your actions…

You may have made a goal to…

  1. work out every morning for sixty minutes and suddenly you find yourself making excuses (weather is not right, late night the night before, you are not getting the results quick enough, etc.), and you stop
  2. read books written by those who have succeeded at what you are trying to do; you are good for about a month, and you stop.
  3. plan by using a calendar to map out  how you will achieve your goals, and you achieve one goal, and you stop.
  4. Eat healthier foods to lose weight, yet you find yourself going back to your old habits at holidays, parties, vacations,  and just because “you want to”, etc.
  5. Attend a weight loss class or support group because what you are doing is not working and you stop going because it is in the evenings, and you would rather be at home watching your favorite T.V. show.
  6. Make a list for groceries so that you do not overspend, and you stop because it’s boring or time consuming,  and you like spending your money without limits.

I have used excuses that “I just don’t feel like it” or “this is not working out” or “this takes more time, and I would rather not do it.”  Later, I would find out that, that action I did not want to do was exactly what I needed to do.

Everyone has a learning curve; the more you do something, the more you will get used to it. The more you are doing it for you and not others, the more you will stick to your goals and plans.  The more you positively reward yourself, the more you will stick to your goals, and plan.

Use your emotions to positively fuel you instead of stop you from achieving your goals.

You are worth the investment.  Let’s dream in 2017 and beyond.

Decide what it is that you want to do (overall goal) and break down into smaller steps.

Reflect consistently on your goals and progress.

Educate yourself-It has been said that successful people leave clues.

Allow yourself time to work on you

Motivate yourself to be the best you can be. What’s your mantra and tools you use to keep yourself going in the right direction?

What I say to you…I say to myself….

Will you rise to the challenge in 2017?  Will you rise to your true self in 2017 and progress forward?

Our journey is a process.  Choose progress.  Reward yourself.


Flee: Your sanity, your life.



From individuals who consistently shoot down your dreams and call you “crazy.” Just because they do not believe in the possibilities does not mean that you should too. It may be time to look for better company.

From those who belittle you so that they appear bigger than what they are. Soon, they will find out that their height is an illusion. If they can’t see and appreciate your true beauty and your uniqueness, then you may want to look for better company.

From individuals who abuse you…emotionally, mentally, physically, and in any other way.  If they can’t see the power of your name, that you deserve life and respect you, because you are here, then you may want to look for better company.

From living an ordinary life and trying to fit in the crowd. You were made to be different. Even identical twins are different. If others want you to smile, talk, wear the same clothes, eat like them, breathe like them, agree with everything that they say, then you may want to look for better company.

You always have a choice. Thinking that you do not have a choice is a choice. If you think you do not have a choice, then you have chosen to limit your thoughts.

Heal within and be true to you!

Martyr: It’s your call


If we find ourselves seeking attention through pain and suffering, then let’s dig deep inside to the root of our behavior.  Being a maryr, in a sense of exaggerating your suffering, may not bring you the positive reactions you seek.

I believe that unless someone proves you wrong, believe what he or she says.  This principle was also reinforced in nursing school. Therefore, if someone says that he or she hurts or is in pain, then I  believe him or her.  I do try to know as much as I can about the condition and understand the physiological and psychological aspects of that condition, so I can fully understand what is going on and help guide the individual to accurate and timely care.

There may times that we may use our illness or condition to elicit compassion, attention, gifts/desired action of others, and other reactions.  Even children will do things to elicit attention at times, especially when they are not receiving the attention they want, whether it is to have a parent put a band aid on a small cut or bruise or to get a hug or kiss from a parent.  Up until a certain age, individuals are limited in their expressions.  As adults, though, as long as we are mentally and physically capable, we should express our emotions and feelings to others.

We should not feel like we need to harm ourselves just to receive attention from others or feel like we need to make something more than it is.  If we know how to take care of ourselves, then we should do so.  There are healthy ways of communicating with others.

If there is something that is bothering you, then please take the time to discuss your concerns with loved ones.  If you feel that you need professional help, then seek it. Continue to take care of yourself.  You should never have to endanger your life to receive attention from others.  If someone is not giving you the attention you feel you deserve, communicate to him or her in a healthy and timely fashion.