Second Thoughts led me back to my first thought

Second Thoughts

How many times have you ever thought about which action to take the next day…you know….. how you wanted the next day to go, and when that day came, you had second thoughts and decided to do something else? Were you able to come back to your senses before it was too late and followed your first thought or plan of action?
Today went so much smoother because I decided against rushing to go to events. I picked one event to go to and took my time to get there. I spent a bit more time with TLC for me today instead of trying to get several activities done in a small window of time.

I am so glad I decided to clear my mind and think about what would be the best plan of action. My day went a lot smoother, and it was a true win-win for all. I kept my word to do something, my children learned some new information, and I learned about a new educational program geared towards helping children succeed in school. If I had chosen a different scenario, we may have missed the event and the information shared.

Some things I try to remember when making decisions are:

1. Mood-What mood am I in while trying to decide? I was acting like my old self trying to get so much done in a small window of time.
2. Information-How well informed am I about your choices? Do I have enought time to complete the activity?
3. Intention-Why do I want to do what I want to do? I have to remind myself that it is not about the number of activities I can complete; it’s about the quality of the experience. What promises have a I made to myself or others>
4. Resources-What resources do I have or need to help me make my decision.
5. End result- Am I aiming for a Win-win? Who will benefit from my decision/actions?

Having second thoughts led me back to my original thought.



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What’s irksome for me is when I do not listen to my gut/intuition.  I am learning more and more each day that even when I do not understand the reasons beyond a thought or a gut reaction; it is okay. I do not have to see the future before I decide to take action; it is important to have faith and trust that things will work out.  Usually, the answer as to why I should do something, will come within a few minutes, hours, days, or even in some cases, years later.  It feels good when I do follow my gut to leave and go to the store now, to call a friend or my mom now, to send a text now, or visit someone now, because usually when I do, I tend to have a more desirable outcome, than if I did not follow my gut/intuition.  I have had many instances, over the years, when I felt like I should have said or done something and did not.

It is not so much about regretting not saying or doing something I felt I should have.  It is about trusting myself.  It is about trusting yourself. We need to trust the guide inside and be able to let go of needing to control everything in our life and let go….

Image result for intuitionWhen you feel the need to encourage a loved one to check his or her blood pressure, blood sugar, to go and check on your children, to take your son or daughter to the doctor, to sign up for a class, to start your own business, to go on vacation, to take care of yourself, to patiently wait for the train to pass (I’ve seen the results of individuals wanting to beat trains), to ask the pharmacist why this month’s pills are different from last month, to remind the doctor that it is your left leg that is bothering you instead of your right, to ask your doctor for a generic form of the drug he or she is prescribing you, to leave the house later than usual, to end a relationship with someone, to go back and check to see if you locked the door, to go back and check to see if you turned off the stove, to say no to someone, to wear certain clothes instead of the one you picked out, waiting until morning to take the trash out………and more.

Follow your gut/intuition.  Most likely, you will be glad you did.


Relish: Unfulfilled dreams


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I do not relish the fact that some dreams go unfulfilled, some talents/gifts go unnoticed, and some goals go unachieved because of many factors, including, but not limited to:

1. Desiring Social acceptance and avoidance of ridicule more than being your true self-Always wanting to be in the in-crowd and not wanting to veer far from an individual or individuals who have accepted them. When some individuals live this lie, the group has accepted you for who you are portraying to be and not your true self because they do not know who you truly are.

2. Lack of determination to pursue our goals. Some individuals may not feel motivated to pursue their goals because they may believe it’s hard work to go after what they truly want. We do not know unless we try, and when we fail the first time, keep trying. Grow into who you are by doing your part.

3. Low self-efficacy- Some individuals may not feel that they are not capable of great work and belittle the work that they have done. Believe that you are a masterpiece. There is no one like you. We are a great creation. Just pause for a minute and think about your mind and body and how well each part of your body was made to work together. Let go of your expectations and get to know you. Many things were considered silly before they became useful. Look around your house. You can probably find some gadgets. Do not worry so much about the future and have fun being you.

4. Lack of direction or guidance- Some individuals may fear reaching out to others or not sure who to reach out to. Mentors can be found in books, as well. There are some great stories out there about how others found their niche and their journey. You do not have to go searching the country for a mentor.

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