Yesterday, I informed you of some of the myths I held about family and people as a child. A series of events continued to unfold the day I called out for nature’s help. Sometime after my experience with childhood sexual abuse, I dropped to my knees and prayed to know the Truth. I wanted to know the facts and not obscure my journey with judgments. I desired to know about human behavior because I wanted to understand what I now know us the cycle of pain. The memories of my childhood sexual abuse experience continued to fit like pieces to the puzzle.
Here are the remaining four myths I include in Chapter One in my memoir, Bent Not Broken.
1. People will be nice to me if I do what they say and remain quiet. Truth: My body, mind, and spirit are never up for a bargain.
2. I have to do what others are doing. Truth: Just because others are doing it does not make the action right.
3. Speaking up for myself has a time limit. Truth: The truth has no time limits. My feelings matter.
4. I am responsible for helping others feel good about themselves. Truth: I do not have to abuse, belittle, or neglect myself for the sake of others. People are responsible for themselves, just as I am responsible for my Self.
I believe knowledge is power, but how we use the information is essential to forgiving ourselves and others. I am not saying not to hold people accountable for their behaviors. I am saying what we all know. We cannot change people. The myths we hold about others are often self-imposed and potentially destructive to our well-being.
MSN BSN RN, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, ACE Fitness Instructor, CDCES
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