Part Of Accepting My Truth Was Shining The Lights On My Myths Part II
Posted on June 4, 2021 Leave a Comment
Yesterday, I informed you of some of the myths I held about family and people as a child. A series of events continued to unfold the day I called out for nature’s help. Sometime after my experience with childhood sexual abuse, I dropped to my knees and prayed to know the Truth. I wanted to know the facts and not obscure my journey with judgments. I desired to know about human behavior because I wanted to understand what I now know us the cycle of pain. The memories of my childhood sexual abuse experience continued to fit like pieces to the puzzle.
Here are the remaining four myths I include in Chapter One in my memoir, Bent Not Broken.
1. People will be nice to me if I do what they say and remain quiet. Truth: My body, mind, and spirit are never up for a bargain.
2. I have to do what others are doing. Truth: Just because others are doing it does not make the action right.
3. Speaking up for myself has a time limit. Truth: The truth has no time limits. My feelings matter.
4. I am responsible for helping others feel good about themselves. Truth: I do not have to abuse, belittle, or neglect myself for the sake of others. People are responsible for themselves, just as I am responsible for my Self.
I believe knowledge is power, but how we use the information is essential to forgiving ourselves and others. I am not saying not to hold people accountable for their behaviors. I am saying what we all know. We cannot change people. The myths we hold about others are often self-imposed and potentially destructive to our well-being.
Timika
MSN BSN RN, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, ACE Fitness Instructor, CDCES
P.S. I would love for you to join my community of being bent on using our experiences as stepping stones to our divine purpose, healing from the inside out, and achieving and sustaining optimal health. Join below.
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Part Of Accepting My Truth Was Shining The Lights On My Myths Part 1.
Posted on June 4, 2021 Leave a Comment
Often, what imprisons us are our beliefs and expectations about people. I knew I had to shine the light on my assumptions to set myself free of anger, disappointment, and magnetizing friends.
Here are five major myths I demystify in Chapter One of my soon-to-be-published memoir, Bent Not Broken.
- Older individuals are wise and always make the right decisions. Truth: Wisdom is a choice, and because someone is older does not mean they always do the right thing.
2. People are less likely to believe you when the person abusing you is liked or popular. Truth: The Truth is the truth, regardless of the person telling it and the one involved.
3. All family members care for you and protect you from harm. Truth: Everyone experiences anger, jealousy, and other emotions and does not always deal with their emotions and feelings in healthy ways. Sometimes pain blinds people from others’ pain.
4. Telling on family members is breaking a family code. Talking back to an adult or talking while an adult talked got you the wrong look or a smack across the face. Truth: We must hold everyone accountable for their actions regardless of family ties, social status, and any other distractions to accountability.
5. People will not like me if I do not comply with their desires. Truth: I am not here to be liked by others. The Truth does not care about clicks.
I didn’t realize my assumptions all at once. As you know, healing is a process, and each day provided me priceless treasures in understanding the weakened areas in my foundation.
What myths about people are you still holding onto? How important is it that you reexamine your beliefs about people and life?
Make this lifetime great!
Timika
MSN BSN RN, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, ACE Fitness Instructor, CDCES
P.S. I would love for you to join my community of being bent on using our experiences as stepping stones to our divine purpose, healing from the inside out, and achieving and sustaining optimal health. Join below. Also check out this week’s podcast below.
The Seeds We Plant Series #76: Are You Cultivating Weeds of Inferiority? – Create A Generational Love Cycle With Timika S Chambers
- The Seeds We Plant Series #76: Are You Cultivating Weeds of Inferiority?
- Healing from the Inside Out Series #42: Why a Pure Heart is Necessary for True Self-Expression
- The Power of Self-Understanding and Overcoming Stereotypes: A Reflection on Inner Peace
- Healing from the Inside Out Series #41: Nip Things in the Bud
- The Seeds We Plant Series #74: Are You Planting Pain or Purpose?
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I Didn’t Know
Posted on June 2, 2021 Leave a Comment
As a child, I didn’t know:
- what bullying, manipulation, incestual sexual abuse, and sexual assault meant.
- I needed to heal from childhood sexual abuse.
- Individuals who experienced childhood sexual abuse were at an increased risk of dropping out of high school and experience anxiety, depression, insomnia, teenage pregnancy, and substance abuse.
- Being in an abusive environment increased my risk of being abused.
Therefore, I relied on what I believed, heard, and saw.
I believed:
- I was here for a purpose.
- True Love is possible.
- Life had more to show me.
- I am a student of life.
I heard:
- The Voice of reason within me. I had a connection to something greater than me, and I needed to listen.
- My mother’s life principles including giving from the heart, living another day, cleaning your heart, taking care of what you have so God could bless you with more, listening, and how you do not need to create the past.
- Positive reinforcement from my mother, brothers, other family members, friends, and teachers
I saw:
- The two family members and many others get on with their lives, so I chose to get on with mine.
- Beautiful, poised, strong trees endure extreme temperatures, and each year, they looked better than the last one.
- Character traits I wanted and did not want in movies and television shows.
In my case, what I didn’t know, helped me. I dug deep within and called out for nature’s help. I do not minimize any experience anyone goes through. I know how important it is to understand how something affected us, but, I know our beliefs and what we hear and see impact our healing path from traumatic experiences.
Research and statistics have their place, but you do not have to put limits on how you should feel, respond, and think about your life experiences.
Make this lifetime great!
You deserve it!
Timika
MSN BSN RN, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, ACE Fitness Instructor, CDCES
P.S. I would love for you to join my community of being bent on using our experiences as stepping stones to our divine purpose, healing from the inside out, and achieving and sustaining optimal health. Join below.
