Candle: It may only light part of your way

You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step -Martin Luther King Jr Waterloo, Ontario Submitted: Chalkthoughts

A candle may only light your first step.  Continue to believe that things will work out for your good as you pursue your journey to personal growth.  We may not see what is ahead of us, and many people who have accomplished their dreams, their calling ( Florence Nightingale, Thomas Edison, Andrew Carnegie,  Oprah, Deepak Chopra, Michael Beckwith, Napoleon Hill, Wayne Dyer, Jack Canfield,  and many, many, many others listed in history books and those who have not been listed in history books), had their doubts, their naysayers, and moments of darkness.

Many of those individuals listed above had just a small flicker of faith to dream, to persevere, and to put in the hard work necessary to make their dreams come true.  They followed their lit candle and without seeing the whole picture or even understanding their calling, they continued on.

Trust yourself and believe you are on your journey for a reason.  The only person who may believe in you along your path may be you.  It’s not about others. It is about you and what’s in your heart…..your calling!  Some people may need to see results before they  believe in someone or something.  You, on the other hand, have faith, and faith is not about being able to see the results first.  Believing in yourself may just be the lit candle that you need to persevere  through your life’s journey.




I get really excited around this time of the year. The weather today was absolutely beautiful with the right amount of sun and the wind to put you at ease and enjoy nature. The other reasons I get excited about this time of year are the holidays and spending time with family and friends. I was reminded today that many individuals start thinking of their New Year promises, whether it is to quit smoking, lose weight, eat healthier, increase physical activity, travel more, go back to school, and others. The sooner you know what behaviors you want to change, the sooner you want to start changing. You do not have to wait until the New Year. For example, if your 2017 resolutions are to lose weight, and you will not start until January to eat healthier and increase physical activity, you could easily add more pounds to the weight that you already want to lose. If you wait until 2017 to quit smoking, how much more damage will you cause to your lungs prior to 2017? Here are some thoughts to consider:
1. What do you really want and is your change realistic? On a day when you are feeling your best, not tired, hungry, tired, etc., what do you really want? Do you just want to lose weight for a particular occasion or be at a healthy weight for as long as you live? One of the options is temporary and the other is for a lifetime.

2. Why do you want to change ((quit smoking, weight loss, etc.)? There has to be a desire to change your behavior. Were you just told that your heart is damaged or not strong enough to keep living the way you are living? Was your blood sugar up, and you are close to being diagnosed with Prediabetes or Diabetes? Did someone close to you have a medical scare, and now are you scared you may be headed down the same road of medical problems? The change cannot be primarily for someone else. It’s good to have motivators to pick you up or give you that extra boost. However, you have to have the desire to lose weight, to quit smoking, and /or to eat healthier. You have to be the number one reason to quit smoking. For example, if you are wanting to quit because someone else tells you to stop or because you desire to be like someone else, what happens when that person is no longer there or disappoints you? Will you go back to the same habits?

3. Do you believe you can change? If you do not believe you can change, what do you need to do to start believing in yourself? Is your internal dialogue negative or positive? What about the people in your circle of influence? Do you hang around negative or positive people?

“Whether you believe you can, or think you can’t, you are right.” –Henry Ford
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you. Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” –William Jennings Bryan

4. Research those programs that promise results overnight or with very little action you need to do on your part. During many of my diabetes education courses, many individuals would ask about “diets”. I would remind them that healthy eating has to be a lifestyle and not just a “diet.” Even hearing the word “diet” has a negative meaning to some individuals. Some individuals would get frustrated, depressed, or angry because they felt as though they were limiting themselves and could not enjoy some of their favorite foods. Many of those same individuals, in due time, were able to see that they could still enjoy some of their favorite foods in moderation and lead healthier lives.

5. Prioritize and plan. What time of the day or you at your best—with the most energy and motivated to carry out your goals? Are you a morning, afternoon, or evening person? Making your goals visible to you (bathroom mirror, a sticky note on the refrigerator) will help keep you accountable. I am reminded of the 5 P’s when it comes to setting and achieving goals.

Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance –Nancy Pelosi

6. Do you need support? Is there someone who has helped others in your situation and/or was able to overcome what you are going through? Do not be afraid to seek support? It takes a lot of courage to ask others for support.




You’ve gotta be original, because if you’re like someone else, what do they need you for?
Bernadette Peters

Growing up, my mother would always say “Know your place and get in it”. I took my mother’s words to mean that you have to know yourself and find out what brings you peace and joy. And even more as an adult, know your history and all of the cells and energy that has formed to make you. Know what you like and do not like and be true to yourself. If something does not feel right, then do not do it. If you are truly dissatisfied with something, then change it. You will have less to regret when you are older. Be you and do you the best way you know how.

Love yourself enough, so that the only person you want to be is you. If you are not comfortable in your own skin, with your own nose, your own body shape, then who are you? Who are you trying to be? Whoever you are trying to be, please be reminded, that, that individual already exists. If you are trying to be someone else, then you are not the original. You are a copy. And when it comes to competition, let the only person you are really competing with is yourself.

It should not matter so much what others think of you. What do you think of yourself? And when you ask this question, be true to yourself. Do you treat others with respect and believe that everyone has a place here on earth? Do you believe that life is a basic right to all and not just a privilege? Do you believe that everyone has something to give, some unique gift or talent? Much of what we think or do says a lot about who we truly are, no matter how much you try to deny it.

Who are you trying to be?