Irksome
Posted on November 8, 2016 2 Comments
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What’s irksome for me is when I do not listen to my gut/intuition. I am learning more and more each day that even when I do not understand the reasons beyond a thought or a gut reaction; it is okay. I do not have to see the future before I decide to take action; it is important to have faith and trust that things will work out. Usually, the answer as to why I should do something, will come within a few minutes, hours, days, or even in some cases, years later. It feels good when I do follow my gut to leave and go to the store now, to call a friend or my mom now, to send a text now, or visit someone now, because usually when I do, I tend to have a more desirable outcome, than if I did not follow my gut/intuition. I have had many instances, over the years, when I felt like I should have said or done something and did not.
It is not so much about regretting not saying or doing something I felt I should have. It is about trusting myself. It is about trusting yourself. We need to trust the guide inside and be able to let go of needing to control everything in our life and let go….
When you feel the need to encourage a loved one to check his or her blood pressure, blood sugar, to go and check on your children, to take your son or daughter to the doctor, to sign up for a class, to start your own business, to go on vacation, to take care of yourself, to patiently wait for the train to pass (I’ve seen the results of individuals wanting to beat trains), to ask the pharmacist why this month’s pills are different from last month, to remind the doctor that it is your left leg that is bothering you instead of your right, to ask your doctor for a generic form of the drug he or she is prescribing you, to leave the house later than usual, to end a relationship with someone, to go back and check to see if you locked the door, to go back and check to see if you turned off the stove, to say no to someone, to wear certain clothes instead of the one you picked out, waiting until morning to take the trash out………and more.
Follow your gut/intuition. Most likely, you will be glad you did.
Timika
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Relish: Unfulfilled dreams
Posted on November 6, 2016 5 Comments
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I do not relish the fact that some dreams go unfulfilled, some talents/gifts go unnoticed, and some goals go unachieved because of many factors, including, but not limited to:
1. Desiring Social acceptance and avoidance of ridicule more than being your true self-Always wanting to be in the in-crowd and not wanting to veer far from an individual or individuals who have accepted them. When some individuals live this lie, the group has accepted you for who you are portraying to be and not your true self because they do not know who you truly are.
2. Lack of determination to pursue our goals. Some individuals may not feel motivated to pursue their goals because they may believe it’s hard work to go after what they truly want. We do not know unless we try, and when we fail the first time, keep trying. Grow into who you are by doing your part.
3. Low self-efficacy- Some individuals may not feel that they are not capable of great work and belittle the work that they have done. Believe that you are a masterpiece. There is no one like you. We are a great creation. Just pause for a minute and think about your mind and body and how well each part of your body was made to work together. Let go of your expectations and get to know you. Many things were considered silly before they became useful. Look around your house. You can probably find some gadgets. Do not worry so much about the future and have fun being you.
4. Lack of direction or guidance- Some individuals may fear reaching out to others or not sure who to reach out to. Mentors can be found in books, as well. There are some great stories out there about how others found their niche and their journey. You do not have to go searching the country for a mentor.
Keep writing!
Timika
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Hyperbole: Guilty!
Posted on November 5, 2016 Leave a Comment
It is interesting that hyperbole is the daily word for today. I have been questioning the worth of hyperboles. Are they necessary? If so, then why?
This past Thursday, I was just sharing with a student how sleep deprived I felt that I was. I admitted that the last time I had some good sleep was before my son was born. As I was sharing that I, too, suffered from a lack of sleep, I questioned why am I agreeing with the need to just sleep my life away? Why am I using the phrase “I could sleep for a long time” when it is not true? Even when I worked nights, years ago, as a staff nurse at a local hospital, I could only sleep for 1-2 hours when I got home. Yes, I was tired, but I did not want to go to sleep during the day. That’s what nights were for. As you probably figured out, I did not work nights for long. There is a time for everything, and my body works well with its “master clock.”
If given the chance today, would I want to sleep my life away? The answer was and still is no, of course. I have so many things I still want to do, and I keep adding activities/events to my bucket list. Honestly, I have been trying to be more mindful of my thoughts and what I say. If I do not mean something, then why say it? It is a waste of energy and a waste of words, yet, I am sure I have used the phrase many times before, especially between the years of 2011-now.
Why do we feel the need to add excessive value to how we feel? With my statement of being tired, acknowledging that I was tired is one thing and to exaggerate is another. Let’s take another hyperbole. “I am so hungry, I can eat a horse.” Can I really? So, why exaggerate? Am I asking for the other person’s permission to go to sleep or to eat? What is my intention for using a hyperbole? To illicit compassion? Money? Food? love? Is it necessary to have others to empathize with me to take me seriously, or did I need the student to feel like she is not alone?
Sometimes when we are going through an ordeal, we think that we are the only one going through something. I usually tell my students they are not alone and can usually share a life changing story without getting to personal. I have to remember that even being quiet and just listening may be what the other person needs at that time especially instead of saying something I know is not true. Does the other person need to know how hungry I am or how sleepy I am? Not necessarily. Constantly feeling the need that one should quantify or quality statements for others to relate does not sound like a healthy habit. I need to change my ways.
I have been aware of another phrase for a very long time and this phrase is “say what you mean and mean what you say.” So, as we constantly evolve, we find out that some of the things we do, the words we say may conflict with something else we believe it or want to believe in. I need to be more true to the phrase “say what you mean and mean what you say” and stop saying things that are not true.
The more one says something, the more one tends to believe it. There is a known link between our beliefs and our actions (self-fulfilling prophecy). Again, as in the example above, I do not need to believe I am so tired. If anything, I need to believe that I am energetic and high on life.
I am guilty of using some hyperboles, and I confess. I need to stop using hyperboles, and just say what I mean, and mean what I say.
Timika
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Timika S Chambers 