Homeschool versus Public or Private school?

The thought has  been popping up every now and then and, of course, more recently now that our oldest will be 5 this month, September, 22. I have been trying to introduce our son and daughter to the fundamentals (alphabets, reading, math -our son loves subtraction, art, science, and history. I want our children to be well-educated about different races/cultures.  My background is nursing; and  I love learning and educating, empowering, and inspiring others.  I remember teaching my stuffed animals when I was a young girl living in Eagle Park, Illinois.  On one occasion, I read and educated them on Bible scriptures.  in every role I have ever had, I understood the power of accurate and timely education as well as holistic care.  I am grateful for the education I had at Venice Elementary and Venice High School, a public school  I know that many schools stick to a rigorous schedule and provide education that is mostly from recommended textbooks.    Until my 20’s, I did not realize how much history I was not aware of  and had not  been taught-Hispanic, African American,etc. I do not blame it on the education I received as a young girl/teenager, nor do I blame the lack of knowledge on my parents.  My eyes are a bit open, of course, to our nation’s history and the contributions many have made from a variety of different cultures/races/religions.   I do  believe that children can learn in many different settings, and that the setting does not necessarily need to be in a school sitting at a desk.  There is so much to learn outside a building and so many opportunities for creative learning.

I am in awe every time I look at my children as I try to hold on to those infancy and toddler years.  Not only do I have thousands of pictures on CD, in print, and stored in my camera, I also try to maintain this photographic memory (yes…I am quite a visual person). I am so thankful of the opportunity to have a boy and a girl. .I enjoy learning about human behavoior and the wonderful body that we have (brain, heart, spleen, kidneys, and how they function to keep us alive).   I am amazed and more in awe with the words they say and the things they do.  Maybe, a part of me want to homeschool  and be more creative wiith providing education to our children and watching our  children learn, adopt habits of their own, and grow.

My heart goes out to those who have lost their children due to evil acts.  I find it very hard to wrap my head around how some individuals can take the innocent lives of children. It is very sad to think about such acts (columbine shootings  and Sandy Hook elementary shooting.  Tears are dropping from my eyes as I think and write about such events.  I have discussed homeschooling with many parents who are homeschooling their children, and one common reason they are homeschooling is to help prevent bullying.  Bullying, online and in person, has wrecked many homes and taken many lives of individuals….another tear dropping subject.

I admit that I am fearful of my children going to school outside the home; however, I do not want fear to be what drives me in making choices for their education and well being.  I want our children to have a well-wounded education and to be able to interact with others in a respectful way.  I look at the flexibility and independence that home schooling offers, and  I know a few parents who are actually homeschooling and love it (even my fav Food Network Star Ree Drummond/The Pioneer Woman).  I can see myself homeshooling and if  we decide to send our children to public school, see myself picking up the children from school, too.  Needless to say I am a bit torn about the subject matter.  I like to make informed decisions as much as possible, and do not want to rush at making a very important  decision that will help set the pace for the rest of their lives.  .  .

 

Any input is well appreciated.

 

  1.  What schools are the best in any given state?  Which websites has the most up-to- date and accurate information about schools? Which schools will protect our  children from bullying?  Treat them equally and fairly?-We have done some research over the years and look at ratings. However, I do not think ratings give you a full picture of the school and their quality education?
  2. How to organize supplies?  I currently collect material -Deals, online homeschooling newsletters/facebook, subscribed to ABC mouse on both Galaxies for kids—I feel like I am not quite there and more time needs to be spent on reviewing uptodate information.  Where do you keep your supplies and are they organized for each day of the week?
  3. How to organize time for homeschooling and balance my time with other obligations/desires?   I think mornings may be better for the kids, but feel like I need to have “school time” more than once a day-maybe around 4-5pm after snack.  Any methods work best?

Mika

Resentment

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel.  Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” -Catherine Ponder

When I ponder the first part of the quote above” you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel” and individuals I perceived to have wronged me , there isn’t anyone I really want to be that close to for an extended period of time.  I must admit that I used to hold grudges for long periods of time, but the more I realized how I was hurting myself and blocking my gifts/blessings, the more I began to let go.  I began to see that holding grudges was a waste of time….a waste of my time.  My strongest desire is to be me…my highest self and explore who I am and how I fit into this world….I  want to continue to grow and unfold into who I am destined to be. Right now, unnecessary baggage can only get in the way, and I have enought to deal with in my life.

If you  think of an event or someone you perceived has wronged you often (mornings, evenings, when things go wrong), you have a problem.  If you say that you hate this person and what they stand for and find yourself repeating words in the same tone /manner and start acting like them or better yet, someone tells you , “hey, you just reminded me of……(that person you say you despise), then you have a really really BIG problem.  Your focus has become the other person and what they did or said to you….No one deserves that much of my time…Trust me….they are probably not thinking of you that often…

As you probably noticed, I used the words perceive or perceived
wrong doing.  It has always and will be always my decision and your decision on how we interpret what someone says  or does.  In any given situation,  I can choose to interpret that person or event as the world is conspiring against me or choose to listen to the message and not get so caught up in the messenger and how the message was presented.  I can choose to see the good in any situation and choose how I want to respond.  Even if I respond by saying something negative at first, I can reflect on my response, and learn from it.  I can then ask myself why did I respond that way and what could I have done differently? Even if that other person meant to hurt you….remember that “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive.”  Gensis 50:20

After years of hearing and reading about the  the importance of forgiveness,  I am getting better at not holding grudges and understanding why forgiveness is for me and not the other person.  When you are constantly looking back and thinking about an event or thinking of someone who you perceived has done you wrong, you are wasting time if you are brewing in negativity, resentment, and revenge.   Looking back in the past at perceived negative events can cause you to miss blessings and your next steps in making your dreams and goals come true.  You are not fully present, and can literally trip over and miss your next big move.  Your brain is not focused on the now, and you are missing important keys to understanding yourself and living your best life.

Being a nurse and reflecting on our wonderful body and its response to stress and negativity, we are doing more harm to our body when we are holding on to grudges and resenting others.  Almost every known condition and rare condition there is, is somehow related to stress we put on our body…including emotional/mental stress.

I just finished reading Success through a Postive Mental Attitude by  Napoleon Hill . What a great book!  It was easy to read with great examples on how to apply the principles discussed in the book.  I came across lots of great quotes, and I absolutely love the quote “Direct your thoughts, control our emotions, and ordain our destiny.  My mother would always say what’s done is done. Move on.  If you do not move on with your life now, when will you move?  It’s a waste of energy and time to hold on to grudges and resent others. We all have our limited time here on earth.  What are you doing with that time….carrying someone else’s baggage, thinking about how you can get someone else back?

Let’s heal and life our best life!

Timika

Are we evolving for the greater good?

Are we evolving to our highest selves as a nation embracing thoughts of compassion,  freedom, kindness,  liberty, freedom, love, resiliency, reverence, or are we as a nation allowing our growth to be stunted by thoughts and beliefs of divisiveness, hate, inferiority, and  superiority?

I have been wondering about this question for a few months, if not in my subconscious for years…even, I guess,  when I was a young girl.  We are in the process of choosing our next president, and I have been troubled by the comments made, over the past months,  regarding women, children, and individuals with disabilities and of certain cultures/ethnic groups/race.  When I think of a leader….a President, I think of a role model…of someone who rises above conflict and not stoop down to attack the other person or the person’s characteristics when he or she feels attacked.   My mother was big on us not talking about each other or calling each other names outside of the name given at birth, as well as being focused on creating and maintaining peace instead of conflict.

Also, I  never understood how we can treat individuals so unfairly based on the color of your skin, the neighborhood you grew up in or currently live in, how much money you make compared to them, education background, gender, and anything else…without even knowing who you are.  I do believe that any of us can quickly be in the same situation as the person we judge.  People have lost entire savings, and some have ended up homeless in a matter of months.  Then they are treated as they used to treat others. Some are even  looked down upon by the same people they used to hang out with.

In addition, as I understand our existence, GOD/Creator is in everything…..and if GOD/our creator is in everything, I see different colors, shapes, sizes, in almost everything around me-plants/trees, children’s blocks/toys/ kitchen utensils, food, clothes, etc .  I mean you name it, there is probably more than one color and different shapes the product come in. Do you categorize and split up our basic necessities of life or even the desires of our heart..including that beautiful black dress or that black Mercedes.  When we look at the definition of the word black, we see the same meaning, regardless of what we call black.

If we are expressions of our GOD/Creator, then as Wayne Dyer notes in Change your thoughts , change your mind, in reference to the 10th verse to Tao Te Ching, it is essential that we  ” embrace oneness by seeing yourself in everyone you encounter.”  I am no better than the next person I see. I see us all as carrying  lit torches to become better individuals, better communities, better countries to a better nation.  How else can we enjoy this life…this earth we have been blessed with?    Also, I do believe that how we treat others is a reflection of how we feel about our selves…self hatred displays hatred, and love displays love…fear displays fear.  It is not so much about the other person, but who we are on the inside that determines our expression on the outside.

If we cannot work together, grow together, as one….how are we to survive?  Who are we embracing?  Does that person have the same values, the same vision, you have?  Will your attitude be…”it doesn’t matter who I choose as President, as our leader/Chief Executive of the United States, “my vote does not count?”  Will we be just as serious about choosing our President of the Unites States, as we are about the care we drive, the house we live in?

 

I am just asking……

Timika