Volunteer: Only what is necessary
My mother was big on educating us about certain values and principles. She still says today that “everybody does not need to know everything about you. You don’t have to volunteer information that you don’t want to.” Sometimes when we welcome new people into our lives, we may feel like they need to know everything about us on the first day or within the first week -where we work, how old we are, the color of your bedroom walls, and what you ate last night, and the list goes on. It is important to keep a little mystery (within reason) about yourself and not feel like you have to tell everything to get others to like you It only takes one time to share something with someone you wished you had not of. Relationships blossom and will continue to grow when a person likes you for who you are and built on trust, honesty, and patience, and not just what they can get out of you or what they know about your personal life. Some ground rules for me are:
- Decide what it is that you are comfortable with sharing about yourself.
- Know the intentions for your relationship with the other person.—is it a one time encounter at an event, or someone you would love to get to know better.
- Use a little discernment on who you give information to and what information you give them.
- Trust yourself to know when it is time to share information.
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