Resentment
Posted on September 4, 2016 Leave a Comment
“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” -Catherine Ponder
When I ponder the first part of the quote above” you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel” and individuals I perceived to have wronged me , there isn’t anyone I really want to be that close to for an extended period of time. I must admit that I used to hold grudges for long periods of time, but the more I realized how I was hurting myself and blocking my gifts/blessings, the more I began to let go. I began to see that holding grudges was a waste of time….a waste of my time. My strongest desire is to be me…my highest self and explore who I am and how I fit into this world….I want to continue to grow and unfold into who I am destined to be. Right now, unnecessary baggage can only get in the way, and I have enought to deal with in my life.
If you think of an event or someone you perceived has wronged you often (mornings, evenings, when things go wrong), you have a problem. If you say that you hate this person and what they stand for and find yourself repeating words in the same tone /manner and start acting like them or better yet, someone tells you , “hey, you just reminded me of……(that person you say you despise), then you have a really really BIG problem. Your focus has become the other person and what they did or said to you….No one deserves that much of my time…Trust me….they are probably not thinking of you that often…
As you probably noticed, I used the words perceive or perceived
wrong doing. It has always and will be always my decision and your decision on how we interpret what someone says or does. In any given situation, I can choose to interpret that person or event as the world is conspiring against me or choose to listen to the message and not get so caught up in the messenger and how the message was presented. I can choose to see the good in any situation and choose how I want to respond. Even if I respond by saying something negative at first, I can reflect on my response, and learn from it. I can then ask myself why did I respond that way and what could I have done differently? Even if that other person meant to hurt you….remember that “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive.” Gensis 50:20
After years of hearing and reading about the the importance of forgiveness, I am getting better at not holding grudges and understanding why forgiveness is for me and not the other person. When you are constantly looking back and thinking about an event or thinking of someone who you perceived has done you wrong, you are wasting time if you are brewing in negativity, resentment, and revenge. Looking back in the past at perceived negative events can cause you to miss blessings and your next steps in making your dreams and goals come true. You are not fully present, and can literally trip over and miss your next big move. Your brain is not focused on the now, and you are missing important keys to understanding yourself and living your best life.
Being a nurse and reflecting on our wonderful body and its response to stress and negativity, we are doing more harm to our body when we are holding on to grudges and resenting others. Almost every known condition and rare condition there is, is somehow related to stress we put on our body…including emotional/mental stress.
I just finished reading Success through a Postive Mental Attitude by Napoleon Hill . What a great book! It was easy to read with great examples on how to apply the principles discussed in the book. I came across lots of great quotes, and I absolutely love the quote “Direct your thoughts, control our emotions, and ordain our destiny. My mother would always say what’s done is done. Move on. If you do not move on with your life now, when will you move? It’s a waste of energy and time to hold on to grudges and resent others. We all have our limited time here on earth. What are you doing with that time….carrying someone else’s baggage, thinking about how you can get someone else back?
Let’s heal and life our best life!
Timika
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Are we evolving for the greater good?
Posted on August 13, 2016 Leave a Comment
Are we evolving to our highest selves as a nation embracing thoughts of compassion, freedom, kindness, liberty, freedom, love, resiliency, reverence, or are we as a nation allowing our growth to be stunted by thoughts and beliefs of divisiveness, hate, inferiority, and superiority?
I have been wondering about this question for a few months, if not in my subconscious for years…even, I guess, when I was a young girl. We are in the process of choosing our next president, and I have been troubled by the comments made, over the past months, regarding women, children, and individuals with disabilities and of certain cultures/ethnic groups/race. When I think of a leader….a President, I think of a role model…of someone who rises above conflict and not stoop down to attack the other person or the person’s characteristics when he or she feels attacked. My mother was big on us not talking about each other or calling each other names outside of the name given at birth, as well as being focused on creating and maintaining peace instead of conflict.
Also, I never understood how we can treat individuals so unfairly based on the color of your skin, the neighborhood you grew up in or currently live in, how much money you make compared to them, education background, gender, and anything else…without even knowing who you are. I do believe that any of us can quickly be in the same situation as the person we judge. People have lost entire savings, and some have ended up homeless in a matter of months. Then they are treated as they used to treat others. Some are even looked down upon by the same people they used to hang out with.
In addition, as I understand our existence, GOD/Creator is in everything…..and if GOD/our creator is in everything, I see different colors, shapes, sizes, in almost everything around me-plants/trees, children’s blocks/toys/ kitchen utensils, food, clothes, etc . I mean you name it, there is probably more than one color and different shapes the product come in. Do you categorize and split up our basic necessities of life or even the desires of our heart..including that beautiful black dress or that black Mercedes. When we look at the definition of the word black, we see the same meaning, regardless of what we call black.
If we are expressions of our GOD/Creator, then as Wayne Dyer notes in Change your thoughts , change your mind, in reference to the 10th verse to Tao Te Ching, it is essential that we ” embrace oneness by seeing yourself in everyone you encounter.” I am no better than the next person I see. I see us all as carrying lit torches to become better individuals, better communities, better countries to a better nation. How else can we enjoy this life…this earth we have been blessed with? Also, I do believe that how we treat others is a reflection of how we feel about our selves…self hatred displays hatred, and love displays love…fear displays fear. It is not so much about the other person, but who we are on the inside that determines our expression on the outside.
If we cannot work together, grow together, as one….how are we to survive? Who are we embracing? Does that person have the same values, the same vision, you have? Will your attitude be…”it doesn’t matter who I choose as President, as our leader/Chief Executive of the United States, “my vote does not count?” Will we be just as serious about choosing our President of the Unites States, as we are about the care we drive, the house we live in?
I am just asking……
Timika
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Know your truths!
Posted on February 20, 2016 Leave a Comment
There may be days and times when you do not feel your best or up to par, regardless of your accomplishments, skills, and talents. I believe that believing, knowing, and truly understanding truths lessens/removes emotions/feelings of anxiety, doubt, jealousy, frustration, guilt, anger and many other stressful emotions/feelings so that you can experience life more bountifully. Life truly is a gift, and there are so many ways to express yourself. I hope you choose the expression that resembles who you truly are- that you may truly let your light shine.
When you start to doubt who you are and what you are capable of, remember these truths:
1. I will praise thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made, marvelous are thy works, and that my soul knoweth right well. Psalm 139: 14
2. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27
Enjoy life to the fullest. It is your gift.
Let go and grow!
Timika
Timika S Chambers 