Let’s get to the center of who we truly are.
Our mother continues to support us during our life’s journey by listening and offering constructive criticism. One of her favorite sayings is “if you like it, I love it.” It is when we are stagnant in our actions, yet we keep talking about whatever it is, that she would and continues to say “don’t talk me to death, do it). Just like the Nike commercial, right?
Be true to yourself. Value who you are. Your actions will emulate how you feel about yourself.
If you can do it for others, you can do it for yourself.
- If you are tired, take a nap. (You would probably tell a close friend to do the same if he or she was tired).
- Treat yourself to something. (Do not wait for others to treat you. You are worth the cost….within reason, of course!)
- Learn a new skill/educate yourself. (If you do not do it, who will?)
- If you are overweight, educate yourself about resources, set a plan, and discipline yourself to follow the plan. (A workout buddy may be helpful; however, remember that you are working out for yourself, and your physical activity is not dependent on who can or who cannot join you).
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. – Maya Angelou
There is nothing wrong with expecting the best from others. However, take the time to assess your relationship with others.
We teach people how to treat us. Silence may mean acceptance.
- If someone is calling you names (unpleasant one) other than your birth name, remind them of your name and decide if this is a relationship worth keeping. Do not assume that “he or she will get better if I just give him or her more time
- If someone is hitting you or abusing you in any way, assess if staying with this person is confirming how you want to be treated.
- If you only hear from someone when they want something, or you feel you are always calling or initiating activities with this person, then maybe you need to assess the relationship and decide how you want to be treated.
Friends should lift you up instead of tear you down. Your personal development should be just as important to your friends as your personal development is to you. We may not get to choose who our family members are, but we can sure choose how we want the relationships to be. Just because someone is family, does not mean that he or she has the right to belittle/bully you. You set the standard.
We always have a choice to set the standards/boundaries for our relationship. If you want to be treated better by others, treat yourself better first. You are the example. Others will either keep walking or stay to get to know the extraordinary person you truly are.
I have always felt that I should not have to force someone to like me or treat me well. I can, however, show ot how I want to be treated.
Laugh, live, and love
In order to be there effectively and efficiently for others, you must glitter yourself with some love each and every day…..A timeless lesson.
Getting the right amount and quality of foods, rest, and physical activity throughout your day and week are not fads. Adequate rest, meal planning, and physical activity must be a lifestyle. Self-control, perseverance, and time management are not only for a particular portion of our life (job, artistry such as drawing, singing, parenthood, etc) or when a certain event will take place (trip to The Bahamas, or in my case, a trip to Las Vegas) or when you turn a certain age. Self-control, perseverance, and time management must be what we embody regardless of life circumstances. Who we are is reflected in what we say and do.
As a coach/mentor/nurse, if I am going to encourage self-awareness, self-control, perseverance, and time management, I must do my best to embody these behaviors.
We all fall short, at some point in our lives, in perfecting discipline and consistent behaviors, yet it is not about quitting; we must push forward. It is not about blaming yourself or others; it is more about learning and developing better strategies to achieve our goals.
Let’s review some quotes from Napoleon Hill, one of the great authors during the Depression Era, who published Think & Grow Rich in 1937.
” Remember, too, that all who succeed in life get off to a bad start, and pass through many heartbreaking struggles before they arrive. The turning point in the lives of those who succeed usually comes at some moment of crisis, through which they are introduced to their “other selves.” Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich.
“Before success comes in any man’s life, he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat, and perhaps, some failure. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to quit. That is exactly what the majority of men do. More than five hundred of the most successful men this country ever known told the author their greatest success came just one step beyond the point at which defeat had overtaken them.”
We have different scenarios, yet, the same philosophy applies. Do not give up on yourself. Keep moving forward.
Heal within.. within yourself, within families, communities, states, countries and nations. There is enough to go around.
Set the stage. Own your life. Be present. We are phenomenally put together..breathing, moving form of creation.