What Treasures Did I Uncover From Early Childhood Disappointment?

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I loved playing in the streets as a child. We didn’t have to worry about a lot of traffic entering and exiting our streets, for at the end of our street was a large field extending for miles and an alley that ran alongside it. 

Sometime after the secret, several kids including myself, were outside playing in the streets. Somehow S, one of the two male family members who misused my body, made it over in front of me. All of a sudden, he turned around and wasn’t smiling anymore. He said “it wasn’t that bad.” For a minute, I stood there in disbelief. First of all, he denied his involvement in my sexual abuse experience since day one. Second of all, he downplayed what he already denied. But, in that moment, I knew his denial had nothing to do with me. I did the right thing in telling the truth. 

I didn’t know what integrity meant at the time, but I knew I didn’t want to spend a lot of time on either end (not telling the truth and causing someone to think something so big was so small of an issue). No child should ever experience sexual abuse or ever feel that being forced and manipulated to do something is no big deal. 

How did I turn S’s denial and minimization of my experience with childhood sexual abuse?

  1. I faced what I didn’t like. I was more grateful about J showing me who I didn’t want to be. Then, I knew who I wanted to be.
  2. I practiced telling the truth as much as possible from something simple as the color of grass to my emotions and every day situations. 
  3. I remembered how it felt to have someone minimize my emotions, feelings, and body (mental construct). No one should ever feel like an outcast for telling the truth. I tried my best to include others (classmates, friends, new kids on the block, to coworkers)in whatever I was doing. 

My childhood sexual abuse experienced uncovered several treasures, including:

1. The “what I say to you. I say to me” principle. If I encourage you to do something, I should be doing it myself.

2. As a child, I prayed to see the innocence in people. I did not want my heart to harden because of what someone else did. Oh man! This one hit me again. It’s easy to judge people when you feel like they have disappointed you. 

As I focused on the treasures of the disappointment, I continued to chip away at the guilt, shame, and other emotions and feelings lingering from my experience with childhood sexual abuse. 

We do not have to live with anger, blame, guilt, shame, resentment, and vengeance. Embrace the experience and know there are treasures waiting for you. 

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. (Matthew 7:7, NIV)

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Make this lifetime great!


MSN BSN RN, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, ACE Fitness Instructor, CDCES

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Mope: when to stop?

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Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.

~Robert Breault

When is it time to mope?

There are times when I do want to mope…when my thinking is not clear, or when things do not quite go the way I want.  However, when I look back on the times that I have moped, I feel like that my time could have been spent more productively.  There are no regrets, though.  We are here to evolve.  There are alternatives to moping such as:

  1. Making time for yourself. Do what you need to do to have some peace and quiet.
  2. Self-reflection- Why are you moping? What are you sad about?  What can you learn from the situation?  What would you do differently?
  3. See the positive side of things. I soon realize that things could have been worse.  What are you grateful for?  One thing I am usually grateful for is the fact that I am still alive.
  4. Learn from the situation. Make a mental note of what to do next time.

Every step of our journey counts.  We never know when our time on earth will come to an end.  So, I am learning more each day to spend my time wisely and to live my life the best way I know how.


All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Heal within,