What I say to you, I say to myself?

Too many times individuals want to give you advice on how to live your life, yet they are not practicing it themselves. I think back to one of my jobs as an educator for individuals with chronic health conditions with an insurance company. Nurses provided education and support via phone calls and mailings. This was before I obtained my certification as a diabetes educator, and I would hear others try to talk to their clients about healthy eating and the importance of exercising, yet it was obvious that they were not living that life. I have had others talk to patients about quitting smoking, yet they smoke themselves. They would go on and on about how smoking is bad for your health and give resources on how others could stop smoking. Now, some may say that educating others is just a job, but it is more than that. Education should represent what you believe and value. It is a manifest of who you are on the inside. This is not to think that why change if others will not or call someone an “imposter”. The change is for you and not the other person. Deciding not to change something because of what someone else is or is not doing is a poor excuse. Would you not agree?

I do not want to come across as judging…It is a fact that individuals look for others who have gone through what they are going through to motivate them and show them how to change their life. They look for positive role models, not someone who just talks…but someone who acts on what he or she says. I just wonder if that person could see you now..be the fly on your wall, would you be the motivation they need or thought you were?

Until next time,

Timika Chambers RN BSN MSN CDE
Author of Mother’s Words of Wisdom. From my heart to yours. Building within.

Being a mother-From “Mother’s words of wisdom. From my heart to yours. Building within”

Being a mother

Being a mother is important to me,
It is now part of my destiny.
Addressing my child’s and my own fears,
Wiping away the many tears,
Being a mother is important to me.

I learn so much from you and me.
How can I be the best mother you see?
Giving you all the tools to grow,
As you become more conscious of the life you now know,
You are my son and not just for show.
How can I look you in your eyes and not be who I am supposed to be?
Being a mother is important to me.

I must be conscious of my activities.
I cannot be there to protect you from all your falls.
I hope that you take the time to learn from them all.
To stand firm in the mist of adversity,
Do strive to be in the driver’s seat of your destiny.
Do not live in another’s misery.
Being a mother is important to me.

Be proud of who you are,
There is none other like you by far.
You were made beautifully,
Being true to who you are is important to me,
Know that I will be here as much as I can,
To lift you up when you need a hand,
I love you so much, my son
Our journey through life together has just begun.

When you find out who you are, you can be who you are….

My husband and I rented a movie from the local Drugmart a week or so ago, and I cannot get out of my mind how this person wanted to be and do things (play the piano proficiently, wanted more action in his life, and kept dreaming of his life being different).  He was brainwashed to believe that he was someone else and led a life that confirmed it.  He worked for a company he did not like and was bored of the work.  His life did not change until he took a chance….. until he ventured out to at least be in a fantasy world and be who he wanted to be.  They were going to knock him out with an injection, and he could, momentarily, be in a fantasy life…the life he wanted..  It was crazy because even his “wife” who knew the truth and would eventually try to kill him, played into who he was not…just as long as he believed who he was not.

My husband text me today about how a mass murder occurred on the same date I was born.  He further wrote me about how that same person was told that he would never be anything like his brother.  It confirmed, to me, that one’s childhood is a very critical period and it matters how you label your child when he is young.  It matters in the names you call your children.  It matters who your child becomes because who your child becomes affects the life of others literally and possibly painfully.  Our words can be hurtful.  Our anger can be contagious.  We have to be more conscious of who and what our child hears and sees. Do not let anybody define you. Know who you are.

I am still trying to figure out the name of the movie…

Timika Chambers