Truth Week 2: Acknowledge Your Emotions

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Sometimes, what we need to do the most is often what we don’t want to do. Time in the “darkness” is an opportunity to acknowledge and accept our emotions and feelings instead of pushing them into an already overstuffed container. 

Before COVID-19, I, like many people, was all over the place. Here a school. There a field trip, luncheons, dancing classes for our daughter, sports activities for our son, and other events. I was not maximizing the “space” given to me to sort out years of accumulated emotions and feelings and who I wanted to be. Anger, fear, and resentment were building up in me, and I wasn’t aware of it, mostly because I was not using many of the teachings I learned as a child. 

So when Covid-19 shut down to hit, I saw it as an opportunity to “be still,” currently the third Chapter in my upcoming memoir titled Bent Not Broken. The past year reinforced that emotional cleansing is an everyday necessity for wellness. I also remembered how important self-talk is when we are going through something. 

At an early age, I experienced the power of unhealed emotions. When we don’t deal with our emotions, we increase our chances of projecting our pain on others (i.e., domestic violence, sexual abuse, and others), ourselves (self-sabotage, suicide, or others), or both. The nursing path continued to show me the mental and physical effects of pain and unmanaged stress. During my 20’s, I read more about the relationship between dis-ease and mental and physical symptoms from authors such as Eckhart Tolle, Gary Zukav, Louise Hay, and others.

The only way to achieve the balance our bodies thrive is by going through the darkness. Emotions and feelings notify us something within us needs attention. In other words, you must face your anger, guilt, resentment, shame, and other emotions to get to the other side, which is full of compassion, love, joy, and peace.

This week I will continue to shed light on how facing our emotions and feelings can show us to and through our healing path. Each bodily system works together, permitting us to make the impact we are here to make. Trauma side effects (anxiety, fatigue, heart palpitations, and others) come from a perfectly wired body, all yelling the same thing…..

The same emotions that created the darkness are the same emotions that can lighten your path. 

Thanks for reading and stay tuned!

Timika

MSN BSN RN, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, ACE Fitness Instructor, CDCES

P.S. I would love for you to join my community of being bent on using our experiences as stepping stones to our divine purpose, healing from the inside out, and achieving and sustaining optimal health. Subscribe to @timikaschambers.com by clicking the link below.

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Blaming Yourself Is Not The Answer

I’m sure you have heard the phrase forgiveness is for you and not the other person. Sometime after my childhood sexual abuse secret was out, I realized anger, guilt, resentment, shame, and their magnetizing companions were a waste of energy and time.

Nursing school was one of my many signposts that confirmed there was a never way of living. After learning about resilience, I said, “I am resilient. I learned about conditioning my mind (Pavlov) and how to be my best self as possible. I was on my way to self-actualization, and many great people experienced unwanted events as a child. I learned I had a voice, and I could teach people how to be healthy and prevent things from happening to them. I also learned about the devastating effects of stress (anger, guilt, and other potentially toxic emotions if we permit them to linger.

Often, life teaches us theory before experience. Later in my 20’s, I experienced what the world calls survivor’s guilt after learning that many people who experienced childhood sexual abuse turned to external comforters (alcohol, drugs, sex, and others) and were suffering. I felt I accomplished many of my dreams and pondered why me?

Thankfully, life has also brought me full circle in understanding that we go through things to help people find their healing path. Thus, forgiveness serves as a win-win.

I realize again that there is no reason to feel guilty. As a child, I had every right to:

  1. believe what the two family members did was not my fault
  2. believe someone else’s pain is not my fault
  3. experience true love since I knew what love was not.
  4. Succeed in life (to do the things I love without feeling guilty).

There is no reason to imprison ourselves for something someone else did. We become so others can become. People need light to show them the way out of pain (darkness). We don’t need to struggle and keep carrying baggage (pain) into generations.

When we know we have a right to be free and experience love, we do not settle for anything else. We are not better than others. We are living our truth.

Thank you for reading my post!

Make this lifetime great!

Timika

MSN BSN RN, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, ACE Fitness Instructor, CDCES

P.S. I would love for you to join my community of being bent on using our experiences as stepping stones to our divine purpose, healing from the inside out, and achieving and sustaining optimal health. Subscribe to @timikaschambers.com by clicking the link below.

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