When Do We Have The Real Discussion About Health With Our Children?

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When I was still single, I saw a bandaid or Neosporin commercial of a mother taking care of her daughter’s bruise on her elbow. I knew then that I wanted to be knowledgeable and well-equipped to take care of my children’s little booboos. Now, as a mother with 20 years of healthcare under my belt (hospital, clinic, and pharmacology instructor, etc.), I want to keep our children well, limiting unnecessary pain. Children should not have to wait until they become adults to know how to decrease their chances of developing chronic health conditions such as diabetes, heart disease, and mental health conditions. I want them to see things before they happen, so they can prevent them from happening.

Often, my mother told us we didn’t have to continue the past. If you didn’t like something or learned something the hard way, why do your children have to go through the same thing? For example, if I know that heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, and the host of other conditions run in our family, I need to do what I can to break the cycle of pain. Now, I get it; as a mother, we have way more stuff on our plate, but if my children get sick, I have more things to do than less. My best bet is to keep them well as much as possible. 

Over COVID, all of us put on a few pounds, and I dropped a few of my balls (motherly tasks), juggling all of my responsibilities. The past few weeks, Cam started asking about the tapes Carl and I used to work out in Ohio. Both Carl and I benefited from the P90 routine; we lost weight and had toner arms and legs. I had a flatter abdominal area. 

Initially, I thought the exercise routine would be too much for the children, but then, the thought came to me that the children will know when they need to rest. And they did. When they felt tired, they sat on the couch or slowed down. 

I want our children to have a healthy view of health and wellness. I know, just like anything else, it’s easy to obsess about our body and achieve the opposite results (not liking yourself and feeling like you have to work out to receive acceptance. I want our children to have a perfect balance of activity and rest.

I’ve seen the regrets on people’s faces after hearing diabetes or heart disease diagnosis. I’ve cared for people who can’t wash their faces without experiencing shortness of breath or other limitations. I want our children to love their bodies, mind, and spirit. 

Pain doesn’t only exist physically but mentally. We discuss Bible verses, their feelings, affirmations, and others. We discuss scenarios and possible solutions to the scenarios. I cannot stop life from happening, but I can help prepare them to withstand some of life’s storms.

So, when do we discuss health? We have the health discussion as soon as we call. We use teachable moments (playtime, mealtime, bedtime, and others) to share our knowledge and wisdom. And if we don’t know something, we use reliable resources (healthcare providers, etc.) because we want our children to be in the best health possible. 

What kind of discussions can we have? We can:

1.Teach our children about the known relationship between sugar and health (i.e., cavities)

2. Teach our children how to read food labels and show them what serving sizes look like,

3. Encourage our children to eat balanced meals. If you need help with this, speak with your healthcare provider about community resources. For example, some hospitals hold family cooking classes.

4. Keep the education on balanced meals by asking your children to identify what food groups are on their meal plate and what they are missing? Then, how can you add what’s missing to your plate to achieve balance? 

5. Use the grocery store for teachable moments. For example, what should healthy fruits and veggies feel like? 

6. Include our children in meal planning and grocery list planning.

7. Teach our children healthier coping with life issues (talking things out, drawing, dancing, or other activities).

8. Include our children in our fitness routine, even with something so simple as walking. 

What other things have you with your children to create a cycle of love?

Our children should desire health and fitness because they know how priceless their body, mind, and spirit are. When we take what we know to build a better foundation for our children, we break the cycle of pain by creating a cycle of love.

You can catch the children exercising with Tony Horton’s P90 video (46 seconds) on our YouTube channel, On The Oregon Coast With The Chambers.

You can also check out my podcast, Create A Generational Love Cycle, which airs every Tuesday, for more tips on breaking the cycle of pain.https://atomic-temporary-47223352.wpcomstaging.com/media/28193b85b47a4cf7d3b2486375d5fefa

Make this lifetime great!

Timika

Our children should have a desire for health and fitness because they know how priceless their body, mind, and spirit are. When we take what we know to build a better foundation for our children, we break the cycle of pain by creating a cycle of love.

Empowering Families Series #3: One Mother at a Time Interview with Mia Pickard DNP, FNP-BC – Create A Generational Love Cycle With Timika S Chambers

Guest NameMia Pickard, DNP, FNP-BCContact email: porchlighthealthnp@gmail.com Keywords#healthcare, #empowerment, #family, #nursing, #storms,#resources, #Georgia, #mentalhealth, #community, #personal growth Summary In this episode, Mia Pickard shares her inspiring journeyfrom small-town roots to becoming a Georgia-based Family Nurse Practitioner. She discusses her innovative approach to healthcare, empowering families, and the importance of honest communication and storm-walking as tools for growth.Key Topics Mia Pickard’s background and journey from Ohio to GeorgiaThe concept of Porchlight Health and its missionThe importanceof resource sharing and community in healthcareHow storms and challenges can be opportunities for growthThe role of honesty and vulnerability in parenting and relationshipsStrategies for empowering families and childrenThe impact of childhood experiences on parenting stylesThe significance of building trust and safe environments for childrenMia’s innovative health guides and digital resourcesThe importance of individualizing care and self-empowerment Sound Bites "I'm a problem solver; I like to bring resources to people""Utilizing the resources you have to create or improve your health picture""Storms provide clarity and an opportunity to get grounded" Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Mia Pickard and her journey02:10 Mia shares her problem-solving approach in healthcare07:00 Using resources to improve health and well-being18:16 Storms as opportunities for clarity and growth31:30 Introducing Porchlight Health and its mission42:17 Building a digital presence and resources for health empowerment43:00 The ripple effect of empowering families and communitiesThank you for listening!Timika ChambersYou can learn more about the work I do at https://timikaschambers.com/
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Timika

Remember You Are Never Alone

Sometimes you may feel like you are alone, but you are not. Check out this week’s podcast here as I discuss this Truth further on my Podcast, Create A Generational Love Cycle.

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Timika

What Are Your Birthrights?

On occasion, I’ve seen Cam scan future readings after our daily devotion. Today, he asked me the definition of a word not in today’s reading. He asked, “what does birthright mean?” After confirming the word he was asking about, I replied, “something that is automatically yours.” Next, in a mumbled voice, he asked, “what else is my birthright?” As my mind searched for more answers, I said joy, knowledge, and wisdom. Then, I added free from anger (long-suffering anger).

I felt clarity and excitement rising within me because I knew God brought on the conversation. Several years ago, I wrote a post about how thankful I was for the chance to raise a boy into a respectful, God-loving man.

(side note: I just thought about how God provides win-win experiences. Not only am I using today’s breakfast and devotion conversation to post my daily notes on life, but I was reminded of the wonderful opportunity I have to raise a son who honors and respects life.)

There was a point in my life when I was afraid to have children because of all the violence I kept hearing and seeing in the world, but then I exchanged fear for courage. I know what it’s like to feel disrespected, so I hungered for the chance to deposit something in the world, making it a better place. Yet, I aim to parent with balance, letting our children exercise their free will.

So, what is your birthright? I can think of eight right now. 

  1. You have the right to live your life unopposed by others.
  2. You have the right to voice your concerns, fears, hurts, and others.
  3. You have the right to protect your body from unwanted touches.
  4. You have the right to your personal space.
  5. You have the right to privacy.
  6. You have the right to compassion, forgiveness, grace, joy, love, mercy, peace, purpose, truth, and understanding, all freeing virtues.
  7. You have the right to do what you love.
  8. You have the right to have the family you want.

What do you believe are your birthrights?

Thanks for reading!

Timika

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