Call Me By My Name
Posted on May 25, 2021 Leave a Comment
I never liked labels. Early on, our mother taught us to call people by their names, a principle she learned through her personal experience with teasing and through someone she loved.
During my mother’s childhood, people teased her about her “skinny legs.” She shared her disappointment with her father. Then, he shared his story of being teased about the size of his head. She never forgot what it felt like to be teased or her father’s lingering pain from childhood; therefore, she was passionate about reinforcing her principle to call people by their name.
When some family members described an out-of-town family member, they described her by saying she was “crazy.” When I met the family member, I realized that she was not crazy; she was misunderstood. But, I saw the impact of other’s opinions on her identity. I saw the pain in her eyes; there was more to the wounds she had.
When I graduated from nursing school, some people referred to me as a “nurse.” I didn’t like that label either. I just wanted to be Timika, a person that is more than her experience. Part of what helped me to move forward from childhood sexual abuse, was avoiding labels based on fear.
For the first time I watched approximately 40 minutes of Oprah’s new show The Me You Can’t See, last night. Unfortunately, we live in a world in which people project their fears and insecurities on others. I believe many of our adulthood issues stem from our childhood wounds often projected by others. At some point, we believe that others’ opinions mean more than what we think of ourselves. Fortunately, illusions do not stand up to the Truth. The Truth is in us and waiting for us to recognize that we are not what others think of us.
Our parents had reasons for choosing our names, including in memory of a loved one, someone they admired, or the love of a particular name). Who am I to trash over that name? Now, I admit that I am not an expert at remembering names, but I do try. I go further in seeing beyond a person’s name. I see a person who matters and is here for a divine reason.
We are all on a journey of self expression and identification. Especially in childhood we need time to figure ourselves out without the opposition of others. In the same breath, we must know we can’t stop others from talking. As my mother told us, “as long as people have a tongue they will talk.”
Although I learn from my experiences, I am not my experiences. I am not my detours in life, career, profession, or trade. I am not your opinion or stereotype of who I should be. I am not the color of my skin. I am a divine spirit in a unique human form with a mission to complete just like you.
We must know who we are so we do not fall for who we aren’t. You are more than your experiences. You are here for a purpose.
Make this lifetime great!
Timika
I would love for you to be a part of my community bent on healing from the inside out, achieving and sustaining the best health possible, and reuniting with our divine purpose, which is the Light within us.
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Who’s In Your Mental Space?
Posted on May 24, 2021 Leave a Comment
Although our experiences teach us about ourselves, we do not need to become our experiences or teachers. Whomever or whatever you identify with, you become. And with that, you have given someone access to your mental space.
The cycle of dark pain seeks others like itself to grow stronger. We interrupt the cycle of pain with the cycle of Light. We avoid and dismantle pain’s seductiveness by healing from the inside out and aligning with our True Self. We are not our experiences. What are we then? We are spirits in a human body.
We have internal programming that can transcend experiences, and we can call forth what we need when we need it.
I met many people along my earthly journey, and I focused on the characteristics I liked, including the two family members who misused my developing body. One of the family members has the gift of drawing. The other one has a sense of humor and an unwavering dedication to education. The family member who called us liars was a quiet observer.
I took what I liked, and I left the rest. I didn’t feel guilty about honing those characteristics that resonated with me.
We have the power to become who we want to be and can unite with the Truth within us at anytime. We are creative beings who seek expression and joy. What I liked in others was already in me.
What is your Truth? What are some things you admired about the teachers who hurt you?
I would love for you to be a part of my community bent on healing from the inside out, achieving and sustaining the best health possible, and reuniting with our divine purpose, which is the Light within us.
Make this lifetime great! You deserve all good things waiting for you along your earthly journey.
Timika
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How To Heal From Childhood Sexual Abuse. Step One is to Acknowledge All of Your Truths
Posted on May 23, 2021 Leave a Comment
I believe all of us are students and teachers of life. Every experience provides us information about ourselves, including our views on life.
At 5 years old, two family members misused my developing body. I knew it wasn’t my fault they abused me, for no child is the cause of an adult’s behavior. But, I still experienced anger, guilt, shame, resentment, and vengeance. Then, I realized that the above emotions were distractions to me moving forward with my life, which is my divine right to enjoy.
The two family members were my first teachers. I didn’t deny what happened, for every cell of my body knew what happened. I learned who I didn’t want to be, and therefore, who I wanted to be.
I have some questions for you. Are you still angry at your teachers? Are you suffering from something they did to you such as lack of restful sleep, balanced and proper nutrition, peace of mind, and living your divine purpose? What that person or persons did may not have been right, but do you deserve to be imprisoned by anger, anxiety, resentment, shame, and other life-draining emotions and feelings?
I believe that many of our physical symptoms stem from unhealed pain. Many people suffer from this cycle of pain (chronic and rare health conditions), but you don’t have to. In other words, someone acted from their pain when they hurt you, but you don’t have to carry their baggage.
As you know, the truth is not always easy to accept, but the truth is essential to our healing. I could not take back my childhood experience with sexual abuse, but I could incorporate the lessons I learned from it. One thing I learned is who I didn’t want to be.
The theme for this week and June will be on how to acknowledge the truth after childhood sexual abuse. Once we accept the truth, we open the door to our individualized healing path. We realize that we no longer need to suffer, and it is our right to learn from our experiences, live our divine purpose, and love ourselves and others.
Make this lifetime great! This is your life, and you deserve all the good things in store for you.
To Your Best Health!
Timika
