Maddening: Teachable moments
Posted on December 17, 2016 Leave a Comment
I used to find it very irritating or maddening to have to wait on a train, especially when it would sit there, for several minutes, on the track. One day my mother was in the car with me and noticed how impatient I was when we were stopped by a train on the tracks. I was in a hurry to get somewhere.
My mother encouraged me to be patient, and that there are certain things that I cannot change or control. My mother said that actions based on impatience can sometimes lead to negative consequences. “There is no reason for getting angry and “bent out of shape” about the train being on the tracks.”, she said. ” It is best to just sit and wait.” We talked some, and before I knew it, the train had past.
I have had a lot of experiences beyond trains to help me become a more patient person. However, I will never forget the time when my mother and I were driving home, weeks after our conversation about being patient, and saw bodies covered by white sheets on both sides of a train track because the driver thought he could beat the train. You could see the children’s toys scattered all over. I could not believe what I was seeing. It validated what my mom told me weeks ago.
Even right now, I wonder where would I be had my mother and I not talked about the importance of being patient.
Timika
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Folly: let go of the pain, there is very little to gain.
Posted on December 16, 2016 2 Comments
“Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. However, if it taught you to hold onto grudges, seek revenge, not forgive or show compassion, to categorize people as good or bad, to distrust and be guarded with your feelings then you didn’t learn a thing. God doesn’t bring you lessons to close your heart. He brings you lessons to open it, by developing compassion, learning to listen, seeking to understand instead of speculating, practicing empathy and developing conflict resolution through communication. If he brought you perfect people, how would you ever learn to spiritually evolve?”
― Shannon L. Alder
I believe the above quote says it all. Change your perspective about your journey, and you change your thoughts and your actions. For example, Brian Tracy, a motivational speaker and self-development author, encourages individuals to believe that the universe conspires to help us instead of hurting us. We choose our thoughts; we choose our behaviors.
Heal within,
Timika
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Conundrum: limited possibilities?
Posted on December 15, 2016 2 Comments
Conundrum
One conundrum that I often face is helping others to see that it is possible to achieve their goals. Once individuals see that achieving their goals is possible, their imaginary lid of “limited possibilities” comes off. Tasks become easier to complete and are completed in a timely fashion. It is amazing how much more effective we are once we have faith in our abilities. We no longer make excuses for what we did not accomplish and set achievable, realistic, and timely goals. We find creative means to balance family life, personal time, school, and work.
Until we make something a priority in our life, it will not be a priority.
“Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.”
― Stephen R. Covey
“Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.”
― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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Timika S Chambers 