Bludgeon: Let it go
Posted on November 3, 2016 Leave a Comment
Bludgeon
When one feels like he needs to force another person to do something, it is more about the person who is forcing or threatening the other person to do something than about the person you are trying to force. If someone really wants to do something, he or she will. For example, I as a Certified Diabetes Educator, I don’t force someone who has been diagnosed with diabetes to check his or her blood sugar. If after all of the assessment and proper education is done, and that person chooses to not check his or her blood sugar and suffer the possible consequences, I respect his or her decision.
In my personal and professional life, I have found to always do my part and then let go. My mother taught me that when you have done your part , let go. Believe it or not, I have seen others accomplish their goals and incorporate positive behaviors in their life after that person no longer feels forced to do so. People want to be respected and not just told to do something.
Forcing someone to do something he or she doesn’t want to do obviously means that person doesn’t want to do whatever it is you are asking him or her to do. Maybe instead of forcing, assess the situation, if it is not blatantly obvious why the person does not want to do something, then ask yourself ” am I being reasonable to ask such a thing” and if so, then ask the person why or she doesn’t want to do what’s being asked. Maybe that person is afraid or doesn’t know how.
Is it because of ego that we are trying to force someone to do something? More than likely…yes.
I do believe people have free will to live their life and are capable of doing so as long as they are able to ( mentally, physically, etc). If someone has issues with low self esteem, self -efficacy or confidence in his or her abilities, then that person may need time for personal development/ growth
If you feel you have to force someone to do some unreasonable or even reasonable action, know it’s time to back off and check yourself.
Timika
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Copycat: No thank you!
Posted on November 2, 2016 Leave a Comment
Many individuals, across the spectrum of race, religion, gender, age, culture, etc.) have done and continue to do some amazing things. Some of our great leaders continue to use their status to advocate for others and encourage us to be who we are; these influential individuals, include, but are not limited to Oprah, Denzel Washington, Tyler Perry, Michael Jordan, Serena Williams, Arthur Ash, and Martin Luther King. Other great leaders, I admire, include anyone who takes a stand against negative action, exemplify courage and advocate for all to be treated equal are great in my book. It’s not so much about the messenger, though, it is about the message that is being shared with you. The message I hear and see over and over is to be yourself–to be who you were created to be. You get to decide who you want to be. I believe it is important to embrace and nurture you and not so much focus on the faults of others.
We all have work to do. Choose beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors that you feel is right for you and does not violate the rights of others ……
There is nothing like being yourself–to embrace who you are and everything that comes with you (taller than everyone in your class, wear bifocals, one foot larger than the other, unique voice, etc.). When you think that you stand out in the crowd, because you have decided to be yourself and do what’s right or right to you, then be proud of yourself. Being you is priceless.
- I love waking up each morning and getting another chance to live my life regardless of my past.
2.I appreciate the opportunity for second, third, fourth chances and so on to get
things just right.
- I love designing my own wardrobe and not worrying about what’s in style. If you wait long enough, whatever it is will come back in style.
4. I appreciate learning from my own life lessons and the lessons of others—
….. preferably more from the lessons of others
5. I appreciate my brain and the ability to think for myself. I love the ability to
self-evaluate and continue to get better at what I do….the list goes on……
I hope you love yourself and continue to feel comfortable in your own skin. It’s pretty cool to know that there is only one of me and one of you!!
Timika
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Eerie
Posted on October 31, 2016 Leave a Comment
Believe it or not, I still find Walt Disney World’s Haunted Mansion at Magic Kingdom to be quite eerie. As a matter of fact, I am not a big fan of Haunted Houses…. To date, I have probably visited under 5 Haunted Houses. If Haunted Houses are your thing, then by all means, go. Go and have fun. There are at least three big reasons why I am not fun of Haunted Houses and they are:
1. The owners of the Haunted Houses do such a great job of making their houses dark and spooky, and I guess I saw way too many scary stories/movies as a child, that I am very hesitant of going into a dark and eerie Haunted House. I know it is all make believe, but still.
2. I am not fun of people screaming and yelling near me. I am already scared, and the yelling and screaming does not help. So, evidently the owners of the Haunted House are doing such a great job of making their Haunted House appear eerie. The last time I visited a Haunted House, I think I came out with a headache. Don’t get me wrong, I will scream and yell if my life depended on it.
3. I am not fun of being in small places, ghosts, and goblins popping out everywhere and people pushing their way through the Haunted House. People can think of some really scary things to do. I would always be looking for the exit.
Timika
Timika S Chambers 