Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.
When is it time to mope?
There are times when I do want to mope…when my thinking is not clear, or when things do not quite go the way I want. However, when I look back on the times that I have moped, I feel like that my time could have been spent more productively. There are no regrets, though. We are here to evolve. There are alternatives to moping such as:
- Making time for yourself. Do what you need to do to have some peace and quiet.
- Self-reflection- Why are you moping? What are you sad about? What can you learn from the situation? What would you do differently?
- See the positive side of things. I soon realize that things could have been worse. What are you grateful for? One thing I am usually grateful for is the fact that I am still alive.
- Learn from the situation. Make a mental note of what to do next time.
Every step of our journey counts. We never know when our time on earth will come to an end. So, I am learning more each day to spend my time wisely and to live my life the best way I know how.
All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
If you have not done it already today, stand up and give a thunderous ovation for yourself. For what, you might ask?
1. For staying on your journey through ups and downs-disappointments, distractions,etc. You have not given up on yourself, and why should you?
For believing in yourself –your life, your gifts, talents, and experiences. You know that you were put here for a reason. There is no one like you, and there never will be. You are unique and beautifully made, period.
For being the best person you know how to be. No time for regrets, shame, or belittling yourself. Your story is your journey. Your story is what makes you phenomenal and powerful.
For dreaming and having visions for your life…for your family. Even if you think you are the only one who believes in your possibilities, please continue to believe. Some people like to see results before they believe in something. Also, others may not see your vision……The test is for you to have faith and not concern yourself so much with what others think.
For preparing for another great year…..even better than 2016.
I am sure you can find something now to be thankful for. It does not have to be huge or proper. You may just be thankful that you made it home tonight!
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” Melody Beattie
What life lesson or lessons do you keep repeating? Do you keep dating the same kind of person, whether he or she is emotionally absent or abusive towards you? Are you always dieting, or dealing with the ups and downs of weight loss and weight gain, never really having long lasting change? Are you struggling with healthy eating versus and being on a diet? Healthy eating is a lifestyle instead of limiting yourself from foods for a certain amount of time. Are you struggling with quitting smoking, checking your blood sugars consistently, or any other desired goal?
If we keep doing something repeatedly, despite knowing that the behavior is not helping us and instead is causing more harm, we need to retreat inside to get to the root cause of our behavior. Until we get to the root cause of our behavior, we will keep repeating the same behavior and/or pick up other negative behaviors.
Some things to consider:
1. Become more aware of your behavior. Spend time with yourself (i.e. meditation) and/or ask loved ones what they notice about your behavior (consequences of your behavior, when you do it, where you do it, and any other cues). Note the when, where, how you do something, and eventually the why will surface as you start seeing a pattern in your behavior. I believe that when we are truthful with ourselves and ask the right questions, we will eventually get the right answers.
2. Identify and be real about what type of help you will need to master yourself and diminishing unhealthy behaviors.
3. Be patient with yourself. Changing a behavior is a process. You did not pick up the behavior overnight.
4. Work on one behavior at a time. Sometimes we get so excited by change and get caught up in the emotions, we want to tackle anything and everything.
5. Positively reward yourself throughout the process. Be creative in your reward and decrease your temptation to go back to negative behavior (read a book, find a mentor, join a support group, find and cook a healthy recipe, etc.)