Faded: put those negative thoughts to rest
Posted on December 1, 2016 Leave a Comment
Faded are the old ways of thinking: Make the most of your life.
1. To no longer live life on someone else’s terms. We all have the right to follow our own dreams and passions.
2. To no longer occupy the day with just things to do. To press forward, we must intentionally plan the day with activities that are in alignment with your goals. Time does not stand still for us make up our minds to do something.
3. To no longer fear the word “no”. To ask questions and let the other person tell you no instead of not asking and wondering if the outcome would have been different if you had asked your question. There is always a way to get something done. Put your creative cap on, and you will find a way.
4. To no longer put yourself in relationships that do not support you. It’s not so much the number of relationships you have, it is more about the quality of your relationships. Do you feel replenished or drained after speaking with a “friend”? Does your “friend” find every chance to put you down and belittle your efforts to be better and do better? Does he or she always want to keep those not so positive memories fresh in your mind? “Remember when you did this and that…….”
5. To no longer deny your desire to further your education, own your business, or embrace and develop your special gifts and talents. Believe in yourself and have confidence that you were designed the way you are for a reason.
Your life story will educate, empower, and inspire others to heal within and to pursue their dreams. Give hope where there is despair, give directions where there is no road map, and give love where there is hate.
Be the positive transformation you would like to see in the world.
Timika
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Culture: What will we do?
Posted on November 30, 2016 5 Comments
Are you able to see the beauty and truth in someone else’s culture?
I am thankful for the diverse cultures that we have and so much truth and value in what others practice. I believe that there is so much to learn from other cultures instead of belittling and discriminating groups of people because they do not practice what you practice, how you practice it, and when you practice it. I am still hopeful that as we evolve, more and more individuals will come to the realization that just because others are different does not mean that they are inferior. We were not made to war against each other based on culture. Our differences were meant to serve a higher purpose. We can either let our differences be necessary groundwork in evolving to our higher selves or continue to stay stagnant in old beliefs and practices that do not serve humanity.
It is such a waste of energy and time to focus on our differences. We are more alike than we are different.
Timika
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Sated: Some rest, relaxation, and pursue my goals
Posted on November 25, 2016 1 Comment
Gratitude filled my heart yesterday (family, friends, job, roof over our head, food in our refrigerator, safe travels, and much more to be grateful for). I was happily sated with good food, family, and just life period. However, it did not take long for this mother of two to find my sanctuary. The combination of peacefulness and gratitude put me at ease, so much so that I was sleep before 7pm. I thought I would sit journal, reflect, and write. My body had other plans.
I am participating in National Writing Month (http://nanowrimo.org), to write a minimal of a 50, 000-word novel in 30 days. I have known about National Writing Month for a couple of years and decided to participate this year because I wanted to see if I could rise to the challenge. Am I disciplined and creative enough? What will I learn about myself? Really, what have I got to lose?
Yesterday, I was at around 35,000 words. Currently, I am at a little over 38,000 words, so I need to make the best of my weekend. I love 4-day weekends, and usually the first day is mellowing out, which I still did yesterday even with all the cooking and family time. I want to achieve my goals and spend time just relaxing.
I know I need to take care of my health and listen to my body. There are so many negative effects of not getting enough rest. If your body does not get the rest it needs, then you are more susceptible to mental and physical stress. Plus, in my experience, when you do what you are supposed to do things have a way of working out.
How can I fully be there for others when I am not there for myself? I know many mothers have felt that there is very little time to pamper themselves. We must make time for us. Even if that time is split up (15 minutes am, 20 minutes in afternoon, etc.) Think ahead about what it is you want to accomplish for the day. When that window of time opens, use it. Don’t just wait for a different window of time. You may not get the time you think you will get. For example, the kids may not take that 2pm nap today. So use the time you get or lose it.
I have seen mothers put their dreams and passions on hold to raise their children, and some mothers would be full of resentment and bitterness, because they never did what they wanted to do. When I turn 80, I would like to say that yes, I took care of our children, and I took care of myself, too. I believe we can still pursue those things that we love and feed our soul, while caring for our children. I don’t want to live with resentment and trying to live life when our children are in their 20’s. I want a win-win in both my personal and professional life.
I am still trying to stay focused this weekend. One of my priorities is to write another 7-10,000 words this weekend.
Timika
Timika S Chambers 