Say Yes to Respect!

Hi there,

One life taken is too many. One life spared helps many.

I don’t want to have a conversation after something potentially traumatic happens. I’d rather conversate now and “nip things in the bud,” one of the life principles my mother taught me. I started talking to my children about love, privacy, and self-respect during infancy. Although I knew my babies couldn’t articulate what they heard, I knew their hearts and minds received my heart-inspired messages.

Bullying has so many factors involved. We must address the foundation of the people being bullied and those who project their pain on others. Guardians, parents, school administrators, teachers, coaches, and others must be aware of bullying-type behavior and address it accordingly, even if it means unveiling unhealthy behavior in homes, schools, and other establishments.

Here are five interventions I continue to do within my family.

1. Cultivate communication within my family. Everything starts within the home, especially when children find their voices. The more we realize this, the more accountable we hold ourselves to our children’s behavior and increase responsibility in addressing unhealthy actions. A child’s issue is a family’s issue.
2. Ask my children child about the day’s events. I ask questions such as: What happened today? Did you hear or see anything troublesome (cursing, inappropriate language, fighting, yelling, etc.)? Was anything done to resolve the issue? Sometimes, we delay homework so that my children can express their emotions, feelings, and the day’s events. By addressing behaviors, we reinforce the moral foundation within ourselves, our children, and hopefully others involved.
3. Address unhealed wounds so I can be present to break the cycle. Change starts with you as the parent. It’s hard to see someone else’s pain when yours imprisons you. Self-assessment and intervention are pivotal to breaking the generational cycle of pain.
4. Seek the truth and cultivate truth within my family. Several years ago, I encouraged my children to speak the truth, for I am on the side of truth. Often, we are silent because we want to uphold the status quo, but upholding the status quo provides a hiding space for unhealthy behavior. My family and I continue to address bullying-type behavior in all environments, including schools.
5. Act immediately. I don’t like when I have to tell grown people that their actions or others’ aren’t okay. And, yes, fear visits me during many of my experiences. However, the desire to break the cycle overrules.

Don’t let things happen for you to take experiences seriously. You have the right to create the family you want, and it’s okay if it looks different from what you experienced as a child. As parents, we must help our children build a solid character foundation to weather life’s storms. We won’t always be with them, but life principles, listening to and addressing our children’s concerns (and adults) can help them go far in life.

You can also listen to the Seeds We Plant Series #22: Respect on Create a Generational Love Cycle.

The Seeds We Plant Series #61: Addressing Weeds in Your Inner Garden Introduction – Create A Generational Love Cycle With Timika S Chambers

Inside of us is our spiritual garden. The heart is the soil. The nervous system is the vine that feeds the rest of our bodies, including our brain. What we grow inside of us, we become and experience. Weeds (consistent negative emotions and feelings) seek fertile soil, no matter what. There is no fear in this concept, for the power to rid ourselves of negative emotions and feelings resides in us. Through daily assessment and replanting of our spiritual seeds, we can yield the harvest that gives us the abundant life we are here to have. Introduction of WeedsKeywordsinner garden, spiritual growth, positive intentions,emotional health, self-awareness, generational love cycle, healing, personal development, weeds of negativity, abundant livingSummary In this conversation, Timika S Chambers explores the conceptof cultivating one's inner garden, emphasizing the importance of nurturing positive intentions and understanding our spiritual nature. She discusses the impact of negative emotions, likening them to weeds that can overtake our garden if not managed properly. The conversation highlights the significance of self-awareness and the power of transformation in living an abundant life, free from the burdens of past pain and negativity.TakeawaysWe attract people who see our goodness.We are all seeds sown into the earthly ground.Nurturing our goals leads to positive outcomes.Healing comes from within, not external fixes.Our experiences are meant to help us grow, not bring usdown.Weeds represent negative emotions that can overtake ourinner garden.Awareness is key to transforming our lives.We must assess what we allow into our inner garden.Pain can teach us valuable lessons about ourselves.Living an abundant life requires conscious effort andintention.Titles Cultivating Your Inner Garden: A Journey of GrowthThe Power of Positive Intentions in LifeSound Bites"Nurture your goals and desires.""We can transcend any experience.""Weeds attract more weeds.""We are here to experience life.""Nothing happens overnight." Chapters00:00 Cultivating Your Inner Garden02:50 The Power of Positive Intentions06:08 Understanding Our Spiritual Nature09:04 Weeds in the Garden: Negative Emotions12:00 The Impact of Our Environment14:47 Awareness and Transformation18:11 Living an Abundant LifeThanks for listening!Feel free to share this podcast with those who may benefit from it and your thoughts.Timika#podcast #breakthecycleofpain #personal development   

1. The Seeds We Plant Series #61: Addressing Weeds in Your Inner Garden Introduction 26:18
2. Heal from the Inside Out Series #29: Give from the Heart and Expect Nothing in Return 23:53
3. The Seeds We Plant Series #60: The Relationship Feedback Loop 20:16
4. The Seeds We Plant Series: Relationship with Oneself Part 2 22:40
5. Heal from the Inside Out Series #28: What Does Accepting the Truth After a Painful Experience Mean? 26:12

One life taken is too many. One life spared helps many.

One voice — -one action can change the trajectory of many lives.

Make this lifetime great because you still can!